Friday, December 16, 2011
Let's play the "Blame Game"
Hello Internet-< /br>
< /br>One thing I have learned from friendships and relationships in general, is we always like to play the blame game. Why? Does it give us satisfaction to tell the other how they fucked up when we are the ones getting in trouble? I try to not bring up past examples into an argument, but if I feel they are relevant I always do. What is the point? Why is it we cannot let go of things that affect us in some way? Is it because they affected us then, or now, and we just let it go because the other one wanted us to, and not because WE were ready to let it go.< /br>
< /br>So I have this problem. A friend of mine did something and it's just eating away at me, and I have no idea why. They keep saying- let it go it's stupid, and my heart keeps twisting and killing me more. I have had many posts about how letting go is one of the most important steps to being happy, so why can't I let this go? Why is it this one thing that is slowly eroding my insides, like a river erodes at the earth below it. And, why is it so important to the other person for it to just be let go? Clearly, I am keeping this vague for a reason.< /br>
< /br>My point is: we all let go at some time, but what is the better time Internet? To let go when someone tells you to, or to let go when you are ready to? And is there even a difference?< /br>
< /br>But, one of the most important rules in any relationship, friendship, or acquaintance....never play the blame game. What is the point in bringing up what the other has done? If they mean something to you too- does it make you feel better to watch them suffer or be sad? Cause when one of my friends or someone I love is sad or suffering, I become sad and hurt for them. More important- when did the blame game become so natural? Ugh...society.< /br>
I don't know- comment/thoughts below.< /br>
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Two types of people
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< br/>There are two types of people in this world, those that do things and expect things in return, and those that do things and expect nothing. Love comes from wanting to do something just from the thought of doing it, not because of what you will get out of it. We are constantly looking for something else, but why can we not give just to give?< br/>
< br/>From experience, if you give something with the idea of getting something in return, most likely you get nothing, or you get shit. Both you are pretty disappointed with. So here is my challenge to you: Give to give. Seeing someone else happy should be enough of a reward for you. Plus with the holiday season near, everyone could use a little pick me up :).< br/>
< br/>Much love,< br/>
-Miss Optimistic
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Change is always around the corner.
Hello Internet-
As my journey winds to an end, there have been some things that have been a common topic of conversation. The main one: Change. Now, I have written about change before in this blog, whether you follow me or not you already know, but I found a quote that may help explain why and what I mean by accept change.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” - Charles Darwin
Now, I doubt Darwin was straight up talking about humans here...but he's got a point. I mean if you think about it- Darwinism is the reason, or could be the reason, why we are all here...because our ancestors at one point were able to survive through the changes that were occurring. Why are we so afraid of change? I have yet to understand, becuase the greatest moments in my life have been when I have embraced change.
Change: U.S. to Ecuador for 5 weeks. Not only was I embracing change, but the experienced CHANGED ME. Once something changes you, wouldn't you want something different anyway? People like their schedules and they like knowing what's coming next- but honestly where is that fun. There is no adventure and there isn't that antsy feeling. One thing we really do need to accept is change is coming. Our world is changing. From natural disasters coming from every direction, to massive amounts of animals dying, and finally to freak weather that we can't explain. Ex. it's December in one of the most snowiest cities in America- and it's been in the 60s. Something is wrong with that.
Our species is meant to adapt, all species are really meant to adapt. We've adapted our whole lives, so why is it that when we are older, we try to stop it? Realize what changes have occurred in you, and try to initiate change elsewhere...that's the best way I've come to embrace change...by giving it to someone else.
-Miss Optimistic
As my journey winds to an end, there have been some things that have been a common topic of conversation. The main one: Change. Now, I have written about change before in this blog, whether you follow me or not you already know, but I found a quote that may help explain why and what I mean by accept change.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” - Charles Darwin
Now, I doubt Darwin was straight up talking about humans here...but he's got a point. I mean if you think about it- Darwinism is the reason, or could be the reason, why we are all here...because our ancestors at one point were able to survive through the changes that were occurring. Why are we so afraid of change? I have yet to understand, becuase the greatest moments in my life have been when I have embraced change.
Change: U.S. to Ecuador for 5 weeks. Not only was I embracing change, but the experienced CHANGED ME. Once something changes you, wouldn't you want something different anyway? People like their schedules and they like knowing what's coming next- but honestly where is that fun. There is no adventure and there isn't that antsy feeling. One thing we really do need to accept is change is coming. Our world is changing. From natural disasters coming from every direction, to massive amounts of animals dying, and finally to freak weather that we can't explain. Ex. it's December in one of the most snowiest cities in America- and it's been in the 60s. Something is wrong with that.
Our species is meant to adapt, all species are really meant to adapt. We've adapted our whole lives, so why is it that when we are older, we try to stop it? Realize what changes have occurred in you, and try to initiate change elsewhere...that's the best way I've come to embrace change...by giving it to someone else.
-Miss Optimistic
Just try.
Hello Internet-
Lately, I have been studying Hemingway. Reading his books, articles about him, and also quotes he has written. Although this CRAZY author was all over the place, there are things that he has said that are beautifully written. For example this quote:
"Before you talk, listen.
Before you react, think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
Before you quit, try.
-Ernest Heminway
What I love about this quote is it challenges everything that our gut always tells us to do. Our instincts are so sharp that when something happens, (this doesn't go for everyone) we immediately react...but why? How can we learn to live or work with other people if we don't even know how to act in a mature manner. That may have come off a little harsh. But think about it, how many times has your emotions taken over and you do something that you probably shouldn't have? For me, that number is too high to count.
I'm a scorpio- so my emotions immediately take over me. This habit or instinct is something I have been working on for years, and let me tell you- it's really hard to break. Jealousy, anger, or sadness all seem to take over my brain and the rest is history. I'd like to say I've gotten better, but the only ones that know that are my closest friends and my family.
The most important thing any of us can do is try, the last sentence of Hemingway's quote. What's the worst that can happen from trying- failing? Well here's another quote I've heard many many times but don't know who it's by : "Fall down 7, get back up 8." There is always another opportunity to try- so what is stopping you?
I challenge you all to try these six steps and see how your life changes.
Comment if you'd like.
As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic
Lately, I have been studying Hemingway. Reading his books, articles about him, and also quotes he has written. Although this CRAZY author was all over the place, there are things that he has said that are beautifully written. For example this quote:
"Before you talk, listen.
Before you react, think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
Before you quit, try.
-Ernest Heminway
What I love about this quote is it challenges everything that our gut always tells us to do. Our instincts are so sharp that when something happens, (this doesn't go for everyone) we immediately react...but why? How can we learn to live or work with other people if we don't even know how to act in a mature manner. That may have come off a little harsh. But think about it, how many times has your emotions taken over and you do something that you probably shouldn't have? For me, that number is too high to count.
I'm a scorpio- so my emotions immediately take over me. This habit or instinct is something I have been working on for years, and let me tell you- it's really hard to break. Jealousy, anger, or sadness all seem to take over my brain and the rest is history. I'd like to say I've gotten better, but the only ones that know that are my closest friends and my family.
The most important thing any of us can do is try, the last sentence of Hemingway's quote. What's the worst that can happen from trying- failing? Well here's another quote I've heard many many times but don't know who it's by : "Fall down 7, get back up 8." There is always another opportunity to try- so what is stopping you?
I challenge you all to try these six steps and see how your life changes.
Comment if you'd like.
As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic
Monday, December 5, 2011
Video
Hello Internet-
Another inspiring video.
Even though our country has been through a lot we keep fighting on, like each and everyone of us should.
-Miss Optimistic
Another inspiring video.
Even though our country has been through a lot we keep fighting on, like each and everyone of us should.
-Miss Optimistic
What is reality?
Hello Internet-
My reasons for creating this blog are still the same: to pass on my thoughts, and to hope that some of what I have to say will help or touch someone. One of my biggest beliefs is that we should believe in what we feel is right and what we personally connect to.
As always, here comes a quote:
"Do not believe in any thing
Simply because you have heard it.
Do not believe in any thing
Simply because it's spoken and rumored by many.
Do not believe in any thing
Simply because it's found written in your religious books.
Do no believe in any thing
Merely on the authority of your teachers and elders.
Do not believe in traditions because,
They have been handed down for many generations.
But after observation and analysis.
When you find that any thing agrees with reason,
And is conductive to the good and benefit of one and all,
Then accept it and live up to it."
-Lord, Gautham Buddha
I'm going to be honest- I have a hard time liking Lady Gaga- sorry followers. She has no sense of reality or a set of beliefs that she follows. She follows all beliefs in order to create a larger audience or connect with more people to make MORE money. As it is, she makes at least FOUR million a year off of bull shit. The reason I bring this up now is because, she hates reality (or this is my take on it) because people just follow what they are told or what they see. But the reality of it is- is she is supposed to be who people are looking up to.
So now we have an issue of people just giving up on reality, and believing it's all a facade. Want to see an example: here it is.
Here is my issue: someone told me that reality isn't real, it's all an illusion, and my response was: we are living, therefore there is some reality to everything we do. And now, we have people responding to that with this : "But reality is what you make of it. This is all so temporary. And all living we do is based on this idea of ourselves that we have... But that idea is fake. It is organized by our ego and what we think we need to be based on media and what is imposed upon us. Anyway... There is nothing wrong with making your reality what you want of it. Because that is what it is. What you make of it."
So let me ask you Internet: does reality exist? If so...what is reality?
My opinion, yes a reality is that we all take life too seriously, but why does that mean that there is no reality. It's not like we are living in Inception. (GREAT movie by the way) AND her reality is so messed up anyway, cause she has more money than she knows what to do with, so she can do whatever she wants. US on the other hand, "normal" working people, have a different reality. We are still alive, and things are still real though. I don't know- any thoughts?
Comment below.
As always, much love
-Miss Optimistic
My reasons for creating this blog are still the same: to pass on my thoughts, and to hope that some of what I have to say will help or touch someone. One of my biggest beliefs is that we should believe in what we feel is right and what we personally connect to.
As always, here comes a quote:
"Do not believe in any thing
Simply because you have heard it.
Do not believe in any thing
Simply because it's spoken and rumored by many.
Do not believe in any thing
Simply because it's found written in your religious books.
Do no believe in any thing
Merely on the authority of your teachers and elders.
Do not believe in traditions because,
They have been handed down for many generations.
But after observation and analysis.
When you find that any thing agrees with reason,
And is conductive to the good and benefit of one and all,
Then accept it and live up to it."
-Lord, Gautham Buddha
I'm going to be honest- I have a hard time liking Lady Gaga- sorry followers. She has no sense of reality or a set of beliefs that she follows. She follows all beliefs in order to create a larger audience or connect with more people to make MORE money. As it is, she makes at least FOUR million a year off of bull shit. The reason I bring this up now is because, she hates reality (or this is my take on it) because people just follow what they are told or what they see. But the reality of it is- is she is supposed to be who people are looking up to.
So now we have an issue of people just giving up on reality, and believing it's all a facade. Want to see an example: here it is.
Here is my issue: someone told me that reality isn't real, it's all an illusion, and my response was: we are living, therefore there is some reality to everything we do. And now, we have people responding to that with this : "But reality is what you make of it. This is all so temporary. And all living we do is based on this idea of ourselves that we have... But that idea is fake. It is organized by our ego and what we think we need to be based on media and what is imposed upon us. Anyway... There is nothing wrong with making your reality what you want of it. Because that is what it is. What you make of it."
So let me ask you Internet: does reality exist? If so...what is reality?
My opinion, yes a reality is that we all take life too seriously, but why does that mean that there is no reality. It's not like we are living in Inception. (GREAT movie by the way) AND her reality is so messed up anyway, cause she has more money than she knows what to do with, so she can do whatever she wants. US on the other hand, "normal" working people, have a different reality. We are still alive, and things are still real though. I don't know- any thoughts?
Comment below.
As always, much love
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, December 4, 2011
A survivor.
Hello Internet-
So today I was stumbling around again, when I found the most inspiring video I have ever come across. Coming from someone who has been bullied and picked on for the longest time, my connection with this video brought my to tears.
This is Jonah, and here is his story.
I suggest you watch it, and pass it along...because this video has not only inspired others, but helped many suffering teens get through their depression, and realize...there is something worth living for. If a 14 year old boy can be this strong...imagine what you can do.
As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic
So today I was stumbling around again, when I found the most inspiring video I have ever come across. Coming from someone who has been bullied and picked on for the longest time, my connection with this video brought my to tears.
This is Jonah, and here is his story.
I suggest you watch it, and pass it along...because this video has not only inspired others, but helped many suffering teens get through their depression, and realize...there is something worth living for. If a 14 year old boy can be this strong...imagine what you can do.
As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Happiness
Hello Internet-
Over the last couple years that I have had this blog, I have collected quotes among quotes that I have found online all for you guys. Now, after reviewing a lot of them...I'm going to share a bunch with you with each new post.
"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections." -Unknown
We all want to be happy- this is a given, but sometimes situations are just what they are. If we constantly are nit-picking and trying to make something it is now...how are we ever supposed to be happy? I have two examples for you. One with my boyfriend and one with a friend.
Last year, my boyfriend and I went through a really rough semester we will say. We a. stopped talking to each other (the most important part of a relationship) and b. I kept trying to change who he was. Looking back on it, I don't even know what I was trying to change him into, but I was trying. Maybe because he was going through a lot and not telling me about it I was trying to make him into something I wanted. I don't know. Regardless. It was a constant battle- stop smoking, you should cut your hair, shave, etc. All commands, when what he was doing was REALLY none of my business...unless it affected me personally...which none of the examples did. Both of us did a lot of wrong in the 5 months of that rough patch, I was a bitch because he was a controlling asshole, and he was a controlling asshole cause I was a bitch. A huge cycle of nonsense. BUT, the most important thing I learned from it was that trying to change someone is only hurting yourself. Be happy with the situation that you have, and if you are trying to change it- then what the hell are you doing in that situation in the first place? We ended up splitting up for 3 months, and then got back together this October, and I COULD NOT be any happier. I think I took this quotes advice. We all have imperfections, and whatever I was 'trying' to change last year, I now look past and love all of him not just parts of him.
Perfection is something that society created and none of us will ever be able to fulfill.
I had a best friend for 15 years. She always chose other situations such as getting drunk, doing drugs, or hanging out with the "popular" crowd over me, and I never quite understood it. I tried so hard to hold onto the friendship and get her to understand that I was more important. In reality, the whole situation was fucked. We both couldn't look past the imperfections of ourselves and life...and ended up losing a really great friendship. Sometimes, especially when we are looking for happiness, we look at all the things we can change in our life...but why do we never look at the things that we have? Why is it so hard to see a situation and appreciate the little things that we DO have, instead of constantly fault-finding in the things that surround us.
My challenge to you: look beyond these imperfections that are around you, and just be content and happy with what you have.
Comment any thoughts/suggestions.
As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic
Over the last couple years that I have had this blog, I have collected quotes among quotes that I have found online all for you guys. Now, after reviewing a lot of them...I'm going to share a bunch with you with each new post.
"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections." -Unknown
We all want to be happy- this is a given, but sometimes situations are just what they are. If we constantly are nit-picking and trying to make something it is now...how are we ever supposed to be happy? I have two examples for you. One with my boyfriend and one with a friend.
Last year, my boyfriend and I went through a really rough semester we will say. We a. stopped talking to each other (the most important part of a relationship) and b. I kept trying to change who he was. Looking back on it, I don't even know what I was trying to change him into, but I was trying. Maybe because he was going through a lot and not telling me about it I was trying to make him into something I wanted. I don't know. Regardless. It was a constant battle- stop smoking, you should cut your hair, shave, etc. All commands, when what he was doing was REALLY none of my business...unless it affected me personally...which none of the examples did. Both of us did a lot of wrong in the 5 months of that rough patch, I was a bitch because he was a controlling asshole, and he was a controlling asshole cause I was a bitch. A huge cycle of nonsense. BUT, the most important thing I learned from it was that trying to change someone is only hurting yourself. Be happy with the situation that you have, and if you are trying to change it- then what the hell are you doing in that situation in the first place? We ended up splitting up for 3 months, and then got back together this October, and I COULD NOT be any happier. I think I took this quotes advice. We all have imperfections, and whatever I was 'trying' to change last year, I now look past and love all of him not just parts of him.
Perfection is something that society created and none of us will ever be able to fulfill.
I had a best friend for 15 years. She always chose other situations such as getting drunk, doing drugs, or hanging out with the "popular" crowd over me, and I never quite understood it. I tried so hard to hold onto the friendship and get her to understand that I was more important. In reality, the whole situation was fucked. We both couldn't look past the imperfections of ourselves and life...and ended up losing a really great friendship. Sometimes, especially when we are looking for happiness, we look at all the things we can change in our life...but why do we never look at the things that we have? Why is it so hard to see a situation and appreciate the little things that we DO have, instead of constantly fault-finding in the things that surround us.
My challenge to you: look beyond these imperfections that are around you, and just be content and happy with what you have.
Comment any thoughts/suggestions.
As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
A pointless question...
Hello Internet-
We all have those little things that just erk the fudge out of us. For me, it's one stupid question that is always asked on any evaluation you have to fill out, on any questionnaire, on any papers, on anything! What is that question you ask?
What is your sex: Male or Female.
Excuse my language because this question really pisses me off! But who the f**k cares if I have a dick or a vagina. Lets get real. Weather I don't have some sh*t dangling between my legs or I do...is that really going to help you with your damn research or whatever the hell you are trying to figure out.
For example: why this angers me so much, is because they ask on SCHOOL CLASS EVALUATIONS! HELLO?! You don't even give a flying falcon if I am a male or a female! It's a waste of ink and is a waste of 3 seconds of my damn time. AND let me ask you this- if someone is trans or confused with who they even identify with TELL ME YOU STUPID PEOPLE!!! WHAT THE HELL DO THEY PUT?! Both?! Do they chose what they actually are or do they chose what they identify with? AND IF THIS IS THE CASE!!!! Then your stupid evaluations aren't even factual to your ignorant ass minds, because they don't even know how to answer your stupid ass question that is IRRELEVANT TO ANY other information you are asking for.
Hello please fill this out-
Your sex:
Did you have to take this for your major?:
Do you think this class met the standards discussed in the syllabi?:
Was the professor readily available to meet with you or other students?:
What is your average grade:
How many classes have you missed:
NO!!!!!!! NONE of those questions have nothing to do with my sex, and it irritates me because there are so many people in this world, who when they get to that question anywhere- they have to think about it, or they could feel bad for having to chose something they don't want to.
So let me ask you something- WHY NOT have all of the options readily available? Cause what I did today when I filled out mine, is I checked both genders and wrote this is completely irrelevant! Then they asked it again?! SHUT THE FRONT DOOR!!! Twice in one evaluation?! Now you are just testing me. So again, I write this is irrelevant and do not specify.
The LGBT community gets ignored way too often, and I do not identify with them, but god damn! I will fight for them! It is actually ridiculous that people just cannot accept somethings that are different from what they know.
I was speaking to my roommate about this earlier, because as you can see- I'm quite angry about it. And I honestly think that it's just people do not have peace within themselves. Clearly there will NEVER be peace between people, that would be a miracle. But I'm starting to realize, I don't think a lot of people even have peace within. They constantly struggle and try to be something they aren't or are trying to hide someone they are in fear that they won't be accepted, or whatever the cause is- who is really at peace with themselves? I personally think I am, but I could always be more at peace with myself...everyone really could.
When I get back to the states- the first thing I am doing is finding out how to get that damn question removed, or at least put all the options if your gonna be an ass about it.
Sorry about the rant, but I personally believe in it and I think it's something that we should learn to accept, becuase it is only becoming more common around the world. We are all human and although we may identify ourselves with different things it doesn't mean we aren't something at all, like this question is basically saying. Male or Female! NO! There are other options....how has the world not gotten this yet?!
Anyway, enough rambling cause I could do this all day.... haha!
Comment your thoughts if you'd like.
As always MUCH love,
-Miss Optimistic
*****DISCLAIMER: THE PICTURE IS NOT MINE. I FOUND THE PICTURE USING STUMBLEUPON.COM****
We all have those little things that just erk the fudge out of us. For me, it's one stupid question that is always asked on any evaluation you have to fill out, on any questionnaire, on any papers, on anything! What is that question you ask?
What is your sex: Male or Female.
Excuse my language because this question really pisses me off! But who the f**k cares if I have a dick or a vagina. Lets get real. Weather I don't have some sh*t dangling between my legs or I do...is that really going to help you with your damn research or whatever the hell you are trying to figure out.
For example: why this angers me so much, is because they ask on SCHOOL CLASS EVALUATIONS! HELLO?! You don't even give a flying falcon if I am a male or a female! It's a waste of ink and is a waste of 3 seconds of my damn time. AND let me ask you this- if someone is trans or confused with who they even identify with TELL ME YOU STUPID PEOPLE!!! WHAT THE HELL DO THEY PUT?! Both?! Do they chose what they actually are or do they chose what they identify with? AND IF THIS IS THE CASE!!!! Then your stupid evaluations aren't even factual to your ignorant ass minds, because they don't even know how to answer your stupid ass question that is IRRELEVANT TO ANY other information you are asking for.
Hello please fill this out-
Your sex:
Did you have to take this for your major?:
Do you think this class met the standards discussed in the syllabi?:
Was the professor readily available to meet with you or other students?:
What is your average grade:
How many classes have you missed:
NO!!!!!!! NONE of those questions have nothing to do with my sex, and it irritates me because there are so many people in this world, who when they get to that question anywhere- they have to think about it, or they could feel bad for having to chose something they don't want to.
So let me ask you something- WHY NOT have all of the options readily available? Cause what I did today when I filled out mine, is I checked both genders and wrote this is completely irrelevant! Then they asked it again?! SHUT THE FRONT DOOR!!! Twice in one evaluation?! Now you are just testing me. So again, I write this is irrelevant and do not specify.
The LGBT community gets ignored way too often, and I do not identify with them, but god damn! I will fight for them! It is actually ridiculous that people just cannot accept somethings that are different from what they know.
I was speaking to my roommate about this earlier, because as you can see- I'm quite angry about it. And I honestly think that it's just people do not have peace within themselves. Clearly there will NEVER be peace between people, that would be a miracle. But I'm starting to realize, I don't think a lot of people even have peace within. They constantly struggle and try to be something they aren't or are trying to hide someone they are in fear that they won't be accepted, or whatever the cause is- who is really at peace with themselves? I personally think I am, but I could always be more at peace with myself...everyone really could.
When I get back to the states- the first thing I am doing is finding out how to get that damn question removed, or at least put all the options if your gonna be an ass about it.
Sorry about the rant, but I personally believe in it and I think it's something that we should learn to accept, becuase it is only becoming more common around the world. We are all human and although we may identify ourselves with different things it doesn't mean we aren't something at all, like this question is basically saying. Male or Female! NO! There are other options....how has the world not gotten this yet?!
Anyway, enough rambling cause I could do this all day.... haha!
Comment your thoughts if you'd like.
As always MUCH love,
-Miss Optimistic
*****DISCLAIMER: THE PICTURE IS NOT MINE. I FOUND THE PICTURE USING STUMBLEUPON.COM****
Monday, November 28, 2011
Change or find?
Hello Internet-
I came across another quote today that made me think:
"Many people say I've changed, but the truth is I've just found myself."-Anonymous.
Recently, I was talking to one of my old good friends. He basically walked out of my life like my father has, and when he finally came back expected me to be all happy I guess. He seemed to remember the past 6 months or so very differently than I do. He told me something had happened and he needed time to figure things out. And all I wanted to do was be a friend to him and be there for him, so I'd text him almost every day, call him at least once every other week, and send him facebook messages- and in return would receive absolutely nothing. He claims all of these attempts to get in touch with him never even happened. HA! Then he continued to tell me why he didn't understand why I was upset. Maybe cause my best friend disappeared and ignored me like my father has done to me for the last 15 years. Actually! come to think of it- he makes my dad look AWESOME...cause at least my dad answers my emails a couple days later. Anyway- conversation went on about us trying to tell the other how the last 6 months went, and I realized...he was totally different, and not in a way that I liked. But I also realized, I had no say in who he was because we hadn't talked in half a year. Who knows if he had some life changing experience...a lot happens in 6 months.
Then I found this quote. Did he really even change? Maybe he just found the douche bag inside himself that he really is. So what happens to us? Do you think that we actually change- or maybe we just grow into who we were meant to be. I can't decide. Maybe it's both? I don't know. Comment your thoughts....I'm interested to see how others see take this quote/their ideas on it.
As always- much love, -Miss Optimistic
I came across another quote today that made me think:
"Many people say I've changed, but the truth is I've just found myself."-Anonymous.
Recently, I was talking to one of my old good friends. He basically walked out of my life like my father has, and when he finally came back expected me to be all happy I guess. He seemed to remember the past 6 months or so very differently than I do. He told me something had happened and he needed time to figure things out. And all I wanted to do was be a friend to him and be there for him, so I'd text him almost every day, call him at least once every other week, and send him facebook messages- and in return would receive absolutely nothing. He claims all of these attempts to get in touch with him never even happened. HA! Then he continued to tell me why he didn't understand why I was upset. Maybe cause my best friend disappeared and ignored me like my father has done to me for the last 15 years. Actually! come to think of it- he makes my dad look AWESOME...cause at least my dad answers my emails a couple days later. Anyway- conversation went on about us trying to tell the other how the last 6 months went, and I realized...he was totally different, and not in a way that I liked. But I also realized, I had no say in who he was because we hadn't talked in half a year. Who knows if he had some life changing experience...a lot happens in 6 months.
Then I found this quote. Did he really even change? Maybe he just found the douche bag inside himself that he really is. So what happens to us? Do you think that we actually change- or maybe we just grow into who we were meant to be. I can't decide. Maybe it's both? I don't know. Comment your thoughts....I'm interested to see how others see take this quote/their ideas on it.
As always- much love, -Miss Optimistic
Sunday, November 27, 2011
"Dark Passenger"
Hello Internet-
Lately, I have joined in with this obsession with the show Dexter. The first time I tried watching it was totally turned off, but this last time...I couldn't stop. Completely caught up to season 5 in about two or three weeks- sad I know. But I have learned a lot from the show. Interesting how a forensics/murder show can teach you something.
For those of you who don't watch it- Dexter is the main character and he is a serial killer who kills people who have hurt others. He is also a forensic scientist, so he gets the inside to all this information etc. But he talks about his killer being his "dark passenger". And thinking about it- we all do have a dark passenger...it just depends on how we use it or if we use it at all.
I stumbled upon a quote- literally I used stumbleupon.com (great procrastinating website haha!)but the quote says: "Monsters exist. They live inside ordinary people. And sometimes, they win." -Anonymous
We all have this darkness inside of us, some are worse than others, but regardless. Instead of trying to hide it, we should at least know it's there, see the other side to us and embrace it. Sometimes it'll do better than you think it will.
Honestly- I know I have a monster, or "Dark passenger", that lives inside me, but I couldn't tell you what her role in my life is. I haven't met her one on one yet. The other great thing about seeing these evils that are among us, is you know who you really love. If you can handle someones darkness, you are doing more for that person than you know, and vice versa.
Maybe it is time that we start seeing these dark passengers and not hiding them.
-Miss Optimistic
Lately, I have joined in with this obsession with the show Dexter. The first time I tried watching it was totally turned off, but this last time...I couldn't stop. Completely caught up to season 5 in about two or three weeks- sad I know. But I have learned a lot from the show. Interesting how a forensics/murder show can teach you something.
For those of you who don't watch it- Dexter is the main character and he is a serial killer who kills people who have hurt others. He is also a forensic scientist, so he gets the inside to all this information etc. But he talks about his killer being his "dark passenger". And thinking about it- we all do have a dark passenger...it just depends on how we use it or if we use it at all.
I stumbled upon a quote- literally I used stumbleupon.com (great procrastinating website haha!)but the quote says: "Monsters exist. They live inside ordinary people. And sometimes, they win." -Anonymous
We all have this darkness inside of us, some are worse than others, but regardless. Instead of trying to hide it, we should at least know it's there, see the other side to us and embrace it. Sometimes it'll do better than you think it will.
Honestly- I know I have a monster, or "Dark passenger", that lives inside me, but I couldn't tell you what her role in my life is. I haven't met her one on one yet. The other great thing about seeing these evils that are among us, is you know who you really love. If you can handle someones darkness, you are doing more for that person than you know, and vice versa.
Maybe it is time that we start seeing these dark passengers and not hiding them.
-Miss Optimistic
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Need some advice on focusing?
Hello Internet-
Stumbled upon this website literally...and figured you might want to check it out.
Just click on the link- it's gonna help me!
-Miss Optimistic
Stumbled upon this website literally...and figured you might want to check it out.
Just click on the link- it's gonna help me!
-Miss Optimistic
Know what you want.
Hello Internet-
Long time no see, yea yea yea. I know. Cannot believe a whole semester has passed since I last posted anything here. Not okay. But, being over in another country has opened my eyes, and I have learned quite a lot.
The first thing I have learned here is that I know what I want in my life and what is worth having in my life. All that other stuff is just stuff to pass the time, and I don't really need that. If you know what you want to surround yourself with, life will surround you with what you want.
It's funny because while being here, six hours ahead of all of my friends, it has really hit me who cares and who doesn't. There are people who I really didn't think I was that close with, yet they get in touch with me at least once a week. And now, I'm excited to go home to see these friends that are way closer than I think.
The only negative thing with knowing what you want to surround you, is you get a little bit more picky. I have become more easily fed up with peoples' bull shit and immatureness. I don't need to put myself around stress and anxiety when I don't want it in my life.
Separating yourself from your life isn't a bad thing. Sure you miss what is comfortable, but it also makes you appreciate the great things you have, and also shows you what you really don't care about or don't need.
Second thing I have learned/thought of here...
This quote I thought of while on a trip was:
"I don't have wishes I have goals, and I don't have regrets I have experiences." - Optimistic Voice
Use this quote if you like, just please quote me...you didn't think of it I did. :)
It's kinda something I've been preaching in a more realistic way I guess. Wishes are great and all, but wishing for something doesn't make it come to you. Having a goal to get it is what makes it come to you. STOP WISHING START DOING!! Also, don't wallow in what has happened- that's just regretting. Take those negative or positive things that have happened and see them as experiences. It's a more positive way to look at life, and makes you happier at the same time.
-Miss Optimistic
Long time no see, yea yea yea. I know. Cannot believe a whole semester has passed since I last posted anything here. Not okay. But, being over in another country has opened my eyes, and I have learned quite a lot.
The first thing I have learned here is that I know what I want in my life and what is worth having in my life. All that other stuff is just stuff to pass the time, and I don't really need that. If you know what you want to surround yourself with, life will surround you with what you want.
It's funny because while being here, six hours ahead of all of my friends, it has really hit me who cares and who doesn't. There are people who I really didn't think I was that close with, yet they get in touch with me at least once a week. And now, I'm excited to go home to see these friends that are way closer than I think.
The only negative thing with knowing what you want to surround you, is you get a little bit more picky. I have become more easily fed up with peoples' bull shit and immatureness. I don't need to put myself around stress and anxiety when I don't want it in my life.
Separating yourself from your life isn't a bad thing. Sure you miss what is comfortable, but it also makes you appreciate the great things you have, and also shows you what you really don't care about or don't need.
Second thing I have learned/thought of here...
This quote I thought of while on a trip was:
"I don't have wishes I have goals, and I don't have regrets I have experiences." - Optimistic Voice
Use this quote if you like, just please quote me...you didn't think of it I did. :)
It's kinda something I've been preaching in a more realistic way I guess. Wishes are great and all, but wishing for something doesn't make it come to you. Having a goal to get it is what makes it come to you. STOP WISHING START DOING!! Also, don't wallow in what has happened- that's just regretting. Take those negative or positive things that have happened and see them as experiences. It's a more positive way to look at life, and makes you happier at the same time.
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Something New Everyday....
Hello Internet-
So today, I found inspiration in a place that I let go. Hopefully he will come across this at some point. The reason I created this blog was to teach people. But how do I teach when I feel I'm not learning? I'm experiencing, but not things I find worthy of writing about. I'm not EXPERIENCING. I leave in 2 weeks for a semester abroad, and am more than excited to leave. As much as I love home, I tend to get in a lull when I am here...and everything just turns bland.
We apparently learn something new everyday, or so they say...so I should have a post for everyday...but I don't. (Obviously.) I think the point of this saying, is that we subconsciously learn something new everyday. We constantly observe, judge, see, hear, and talk about others, so we have to learn about others as we go along...but what do we consciously pick up? Little to nothing really...but when it comes to us in a similar situation we heard, saw, or observed we know exactly what to do. I think this blog (for me) has patience. It's not rushed or forced, it's reality within writing, for you to read- whether you like it or not.
Every now and then I always change the background to my computer. Before it was a quote I posted up here a while ago about how you shouldn't regret because at one point it was exactly what you wanted...something like that, and now, it says:
"If you're brave to say 'good bye', life will reward you with a new 'hello'. "
I hate good bye's personally. I never want to let anyone out ofmy life, and when I do...I always go back to them. I always wonder what they are doing, how I can help them, or how I should've changed things to keep them in my life.
I'm a free spirit- I think the best way to live is to just enjoy, so with the new good bye's I will be saying as I make my journey across the Atlantic, there will be plenty of hello's waiting for me :)
-Miss Optimistic
So today, I found inspiration in a place that I let go. Hopefully he will come across this at some point. The reason I created this blog was to teach people. But how do I teach when I feel I'm not learning? I'm experiencing, but not things I find worthy of writing about. I'm not EXPERIENCING. I leave in 2 weeks for a semester abroad, and am more than excited to leave. As much as I love home, I tend to get in a lull when I am here...and everything just turns bland.
We apparently learn something new everyday, or so they say...so I should have a post for everyday...but I don't. (Obviously.) I think the point of this saying, is that we subconsciously learn something new everyday. We constantly observe, judge, see, hear, and talk about others, so we have to learn about others as we go along...but what do we consciously pick up? Little to nothing really...but when it comes to us in a similar situation we heard, saw, or observed we know exactly what to do. I think this blog (for me) has patience. It's not rushed or forced, it's reality within writing, for you to read- whether you like it or not.
Every now and then I always change the background to my computer. Before it was a quote I posted up here a while ago about how you shouldn't regret because at one point it was exactly what you wanted...something like that, and now, it says:
"If you're brave to say 'good bye', life will reward you with a new 'hello'. "
I hate good bye's personally. I never want to let anyone out ofmy life, and when I do...I always go back to them. I always wonder what they are doing, how I can help them, or how I should've changed things to keep them in my life.
I'm a free spirit- I think the best way to live is to just enjoy, so with the new good bye's I will be saying as I make my journey across the Atlantic, there will be plenty of hello's waiting for me :)
-Miss Optimistic
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Most beautiful people...
Hello Internet-
A quote I came across:
"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." - Elizabeth Kubler Ros
How great is that quote? It makes so much sense too. You know, when you get out of something that is so life changing, and you look back on how it made you stronger...you appreciate the sadness that came from the situation. In that case- make the best of the shitty things life gives you. It only makes you more beautiful.
Our souls grow with the lessons we learn. From pain, happiness, suffering, and every other emotion. With more emotions we experience the more we grow.
-Miss Optimistic
A quote I came across:
"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." - Elizabeth Kubler Ros
How great is that quote? It makes so much sense too. You know, when you get out of something that is so life changing, and you look back on how it made you stronger...you appreciate the sadness that came from the situation. In that case- make the best of the shitty things life gives you. It only makes you more beautiful.
Our souls grow with the lessons we learn. From pain, happiness, suffering, and every other emotion. With more emotions we experience the more we grow.
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, July 3, 2011
What could we use more of?
Hello Internet-
A couple days ago I wathced a movie called "Listen to your heart". It's a story about a struggling musician in NYC who ends up falling in love with a deaf girl. Then the girls mom sucks and tries to control her and split them up. Eventually the girl comes around and tell her mom off and goes to find her man- only to find out he's dying of cancer now...the uncurable kind too. They play the "newlywed" game where a question is asked and you have to try and guess what the other person is going to say. The question was what could you never have enough of? The girl answered books, and the boy answered love.
Come to think about it, our society's problem is that we just don't love enough. We think that the only kind of love is one shared between a man and a woman- but think about it we love our family, friends, strangers, etc. We need to keep spreading love because I don't think anyone gets enough of it. We consume ourselves in the non stop cycle we call life. Finding a head over heals, butterflies in the stomach, non stop happy love is great, but we need to remember that there is that love that we need between friends, between family, in general. Share the love you have and you will get the love you deserve back.
Love you :)
-Miss Optimstic
A couple days ago I wathced a movie called "Listen to your heart". It's a story about a struggling musician in NYC who ends up falling in love with a deaf girl. Then the girls mom sucks and tries to control her and split them up. Eventually the girl comes around and tell her mom off and goes to find her man- only to find out he's dying of cancer now...the uncurable kind too. They play the "newlywed" game where a question is asked and you have to try and guess what the other person is going to say. The question was what could you never have enough of? The girl answered books, and the boy answered love.
Come to think about it, our society's problem is that we just don't love enough. We think that the only kind of love is one shared between a man and a woman- but think about it we love our family, friends, strangers, etc. We need to keep spreading love because I don't think anyone gets enough of it. We consume ourselves in the non stop cycle we call life. Finding a head over heals, butterflies in the stomach, non stop happy love is great, but we need to remember that there is that love that we need between friends, between family, in general. Share the love you have and you will get the love you deserve back.
Love you :)
-Miss Optimstic
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Monday, June 6, 2011
So Demanding...
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Now that I have tons of time to let my mind wander and think on a day to day basis...I started thinking about all the things that we do. We are a culture or a species of habit. We do things that we are comfortable with doing, and then get pissed when we are served the same old shit on a platter.
For example... I always tend to find people, or they find me, that never seem to stick around. But, what if it's not that they don't stick around, it's that I've just been doing something over and over again to make people not want to stay? Not a great example, but hopefully you get the idea.
"If you do what you have always done, you'll get what you have always gotten." -Anon
We expect more from new people that come into our lives, we expect more from new situations, we just expect too much I think. Try something new and take chances. What do you have to lose? So it could be a little embarrassing or a little disappointing, but think about the end result. By not doing the same habitual things over and over again, we will always have new situations and new moments to take chances. The only thing that we fear is fear itself...because we are so scared to step out of our comfort zone. But have you ever really tried?
When I think about the quote from Anon, I immediately think of the movie "Yes Man" with Jim Carey. If you haven't seen it- do it...it's amazing what you come across when you just say yes and take a little leap of faith.
I recently have made some choices that are taking a huge leap of faith. As I told a friend...I'm taking a chance. On what- he has no idea...but the idea is is that I should always be taking chances, we should always be taking risks. We never know how far we can go if we are stuck in the same spot.
My challenge to myself, join me if you'd like, is to not restrict myself. Especially with traveling abroad next semester, I don't want there to be limits. I mean, I've already jumped off a bridge, gone white water rafting (I had a bad experience with water when I was younger), gone waterfall repelling, and more. I have not enjoyed these activities in the moment as they scared the shit out of me, but when you are done, you just feel such relief that you did something you never thought you would do.
Try it.
-Miss Optimistic
Now that I have tons of time to let my mind wander and think on a day to day basis...I started thinking about all the things that we do. We are a culture or a species of habit. We do things that we are comfortable with doing, and then get pissed when we are served the same old shit on a platter.
For example... I always tend to find people, or they find me, that never seem to stick around. But, what if it's not that they don't stick around, it's that I've just been doing something over and over again to make people not want to stay? Not a great example, but hopefully you get the idea.
"If you do what you have always done, you'll get what you have always gotten." -Anon
We expect more from new people that come into our lives, we expect more from new situations, we just expect too much I think. Try something new and take chances. What do you have to lose? So it could be a little embarrassing or a little disappointing, but think about the end result. By not doing the same habitual things over and over again, we will always have new situations and new moments to take chances. The only thing that we fear is fear itself...because we are so scared to step out of our comfort zone. But have you ever really tried?
When I think about the quote from Anon, I immediately think of the movie "Yes Man" with Jim Carey. If you haven't seen it- do it...it's amazing what you come across when you just say yes and take a little leap of faith.
I recently have made some choices that are taking a huge leap of faith. As I told a friend...I'm taking a chance. On what- he has no idea...but the idea is is that I should always be taking chances, we should always be taking risks. We never know how far we can go if we are stuck in the same spot.
My challenge to myself, join me if you'd like, is to not restrict myself. Especially with traveling abroad next semester, I don't want there to be limits. I mean, I've already jumped off a bridge, gone white water rafting (I had a bad experience with water when I was younger), gone waterfall repelling, and more. I have not enjoyed these activities in the moment as they scared the shit out of me, but when you are done, you just feel such relief that you did something you never thought you would do.
Try it.
-Miss Optimistic
Thursday, June 2, 2011
The Things You Find...
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So, now that life has calmed down quite a bit...I went through all the picture quotes I have saved to tell you all about. In between studying or whatever I am doing, I always stumble...worst procrastination invention ever. BUT! I always come across these great things that help me through my days, and now I get to share them with you :)
Not sure when I found this one, but that's irrelevant. I found it again today.
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." - Emerson.
Not only do Emerson's words continue to resonate in my head after reading it, but his words are beyond truthful. So many times do I let what happened the day before, or even the hour before ruin my day. I continue to think about what I could have done or should have done to change the situation, or I just think about the situation in general. We let our old nonsense haunt us in a way that we can't just let ourselves live life and enjoy it.
Enjoy each day, hour, minute, or second. We have more to come to make up for the crappy ones that come our way.
-Miss Optimistic
So, now that life has calmed down quite a bit...I went through all the picture quotes I have saved to tell you all about. In between studying or whatever I am doing, I always stumble...worst procrastination invention ever. BUT! I always come across these great things that help me through my days, and now I get to share them with you :)
Not sure when I found this one, but that's irrelevant. I found it again today.
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." - Emerson.
Not only do Emerson's words continue to resonate in my head after reading it, but his words are beyond truthful. So many times do I let what happened the day before, or even the hour before ruin my day. I continue to think about what I could have done or should have done to change the situation, or I just think about the situation in general. We let our old nonsense haunt us in a way that we can't just let ourselves live life and enjoy it.
Enjoy each day, hour, minute, or second. We have more to come to make up for the crappy ones that come our way.
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Look at Yourself.
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Today I stumbled upon quite an interesting video. Look at yourself after watching this... I can guarantee, you will think very differently. You know, even though I preach to just let go, to be happy, to love as much as you can, etc., a lot of times it is hard to let go of emotions and situations that we care about, I struggle everyday with it. I pray this video stays in my mind. We can be whatever we want to be, do whatever we want, and get wherever we want to...all we have to do is believe.
So, my challenge to you internet- is set up some goals today. What do you believe? And where do you want to be in 5, maybe 10 years? Then, ask yourself, what is stopping you?
Nothing stopped this man, so why let life stop you?
-Miss Optimistic
Today I stumbled upon quite an interesting video. Look at yourself after watching this... I can guarantee, you will think very differently. You know, even though I preach to just let go, to be happy, to love as much as you can, etc., a lot of times it is hard to let go of emotions and situations that we care about, I struggle everyday with it. I pray this video stays in my mind. We can be whatever we want to be, do whatever we want, and get wherever we want to...all we have to do is believe.
So, my challenge to you internet- is set up some goals today. What do you believe? And where do you want to be in 5, maybe 10 years? Then, ask yourself, what is stopping you?
Nothing stopped this man, so why let life stop you?
-Miss Optimistic
Friday, May 20, 2011
Detox.
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So as we know after a change in our lives, the best thing to do is go through and clean out the clutter in our lives. Since my parents are currently going through a divorce, as this seems to be the trend lately, my mom has decided to go through EVERYTHING and get rid of what she doesn't want around the house anymore. She also decided to repaint almost every room in the house- well that's my summer job actually. The first room I have to paint...is mine. So, before Monday when I actually start working, I have to go through everything in all of my room get rid of what I don't want, keep what I do, and then put it all somewhere.
Although I must say this could not have been better timing. After getting some space of myself, I don't know what I would be doing other than sitting in my room all day thinking. It's funny, because as I go through all my clothes, books, jewelry, all of my belongings, and split them into keep or don't keep piles, I start thinking about what's really important. We tend to hoard and hold onto things that are markers in our lives, but the tighter and longer we hold on to them, the less we even remember about it. I've decided I'm going to let the memories speak for themselves, and the ones that matter will carry with me forever, and the ones that don't weren't meant to last.
Especially with the world apparently ending soon, why clutter a life that is meant to be so simple?
Think about it..
-Miss Optimistic
So as we know after a change in our lives, the best thing to do is go through and clean out the clutter in our lives. Since my parents are currently going through a divorce, as this seems to be the trend lately, my mom has decided to go through EVERYTHING and get rid of what she doesn't want around the house anymore. She also decided to repaint almost every room in the house- well that's my summer job actually. The first room I have to paint...is mine. So, before Monday when I actually start working, I have to go through everything in all of my room get rid of what I don't want, keep what I do, and then put it all somewhere.
Although I must say this could not have been better timing. After getting some space of myself, I don't know what I would be doing other than sitting in my room all day thinking. It's funny, because as I go through all my clothes, books, jewelry, all of my belongings, and split them into keep or don't keep piles, I start thinking about what's really important. We tend to hoard and hold onto things that are markers in our lives, but the tighter and longer we hold on to them, the less we even remember about it. I've decided I'm going to let the memories speak for themselves, and the ones that matter will carry with me forever, and the ones that don't weren't meant to last.
Especially with the world apparently ending soon, why clutter a life that is meant to be so simple?
Think about it..
-Miss Optimistic
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
A New Me
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So lately, I have been stumbling on a lot of blogs that talks about the negatives of shampoo and hair products. Basically...what these blogs are saying is we have been raised to use these products that actually are just harming out locks instead of benefiting them like they advertise. Have dandruff anyone? Apparently the reason why you are probably experiencing those lovely white flakes on your shoulder is due to the chemicals that are "hidden" in your shampoo. Dried out and split ends? Well that's going to happen regardless from wear and tear, but basically the chemicals in our shampoos and conditioners are what is causing the wear and tear to happen faster.
So- I read somewhere that baking soda is the perfect solution, it helps absorb the oil and wash it out. Basically my point: I am going all natural. I will still wash my body, with natural soaps...I would just smell if I didn't, but I love my hair. I stopped dying it about a year ago, because dying your hair stunts the growth and over all is terrible for hair. Now, I am going to stop washing it with these wonderfully smelling shampoos/conditioners.
It's funny...becuase I've told a couple people about my project, and they all get disgusted. My mom was basically like what...I'm sure there are organic shampoos out there that will do just a good of a job. But that's the thing...I don't WANT any shampoos or conditioners. The reason our hair gets so oily so quickly is because we wash it every day, the chemicals dry it out and then our heads produce oil to moisture our hair, and then it just looks gross. So we are in this process of grossness, that really isn't helping anyone- not even the earth.
Eventually, my hair will stop producing as much oil, and I won't even have to rinse it very often. I plan on starting to wash it with baking soda once a week, and then move to 2 times a week, with a rinse once a week, and then continue to spread it out. Eventually I won't need the baking soda at all hopefully. Call me gross, but these blogs actually say it makes your hair look healthier and have more volume...so I'm going to give it a try :)
I'm also going to stop using my make up, again. If there is a special occasion, of course, but the everyday wear and tear on my skin isn't healthy. My one friend asked if I was becoming a hippie and I laughed. It's not that I'm becoming a hippie, I'm just going to what feels natural or good to me. I need a new start, a healed soul that will get me where I need to be. And, if me changing my habits helps me get there, so be it :)
We all deserve to be beautiful, and we should be even if it seems gross and unnatural. My experiment is probably more natural/healthy than what you are thought is "normal".
-Miss Optimistic
So lately, I have been stumbling on a lot of blogs that talks about the negatives of shampoo and hair products. Basically...what these blogs are saying is we have been raised to use these products that actually are just harming out locks instead of benefiting them like they advertise. Have dandruff anyone? Apparently the reason why you are probably experiencing those lovely white flakes on your shoulder is due to the chemicals that are "hidden" in your shampoo. Dried out and split ends? Well that's going to happen regardless from wear and tear, but basically the chemicals in our shampoos and conditioners are what is causing the wear and tear to happen faster.
So- I read somewhere that baking soda is the perfect solution, it helps absorb the oil and wash it out. Basically my point: I am going all natural. I will still wash my body, with natural soaps...I would just smell if I didn't, but I love my hair. I stopped dying it about a year ago, because dying your hair stunts the growth and over all is terrible for hair. Now, I am going to stop washing it with these wonderfully smelling shampoos/conditioners.
It's funny...becuase I've told a couple people about my project, and they all get disgusted. My mom was basically like what...I'm sure there are organic shampoos out there that will do just a good of a job. But that's the thing...I don't WANT any shampoos or conditioners. The reason our hair gets so oily so quickly is because we wash it every day, the chemicals dry it out and then our heads produce oil to moisture our hair, and then it just looks gross. So we are in this process of grossness, that really isn't helping anyone- not even the earth.
Eventually, my hair will stop producing as much oil, and I won't even have to rinse it very often. I plan on starting to wash it with baking soda once a week, and then move to 2 times a week, with a rinse once a week, and then continue to spread it out. Eventually I won't need the baking soda at all hopefully. Call me gross, but these blogs actually say it makes your hair look healthier and have more volume...so I'm going to give it a try :)
I'm also going to stop using my make up, again. If there is a special occasion, of course, but the everyday wear and tear on my skin isn't healthy. My one friend asked if I was becoming a hippie and I laughed. It's not that I'm becoming a hippie, I'm just going to what feels natural or good to me. I need a new start, a healed soul that will get me where I need to be. And, if me changing my habits helps me get there, so be it :)
We all deserve to be beautiful, and we should be even if it seems gross and unnatural. My experiment is probably more natural/healthy than what you are thought is "normal".
-Miss Optimistic
Saturday, May 14, 2011
A little time for youreslf.
Hello Internet-
The last couple days have quite possibly been a few of the best. Not because the school year is coming to a close, and I am stuck up at school pretty much by myself, but because I have had lots of time to think, to have a little time for myself. What I have learned over the last few days may or may not help you, but the most important thing, is that you and your happiness always come first.
Obsession: something we throw ourselves into without even really knowing it. I'll be the first to admit, and those that know me will agree, I have a little bit of OCD. I like knowing how things will turn out, I like things in certain places, and am very observant. But when OCD and a relationship merge, that's when issues arise. I think often times, we are all so used to this fairytale ending, that when we aren't getting this perfect relationship we freak out. Then try to control the whole situation, analyze, argue, correct, fix, or any other verb you'd like to ad in there, to get the relationship to where you want it to be. We obsess, scrutinize, and nit pick at little things that really don't even matter. My relationship I have talked about in previous posts is on hold for now, becuase we both became so obsessed with it. Not because we were both OCD, but I'm not even really sure how we did. We spent all our time together, texted all the time, and then when we were together it was just the every day routine that we had fallen into.
My first realization of having time to myself is, let go. Stop obsessing over things that may not be going the way you want them to, because no matter how hard you try to change them your life is going to work out how it wants to.
"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be." - Douglas Adams
If we all just realize that we will always end up where we need to be, obsession will subside, and happiness and that carefree feeling will take over.
Stress: We all do it whether we realize it or not. There is always something in our lives that eats away at us and gets under our skin, but why? Why do we care so much about these little things that dig into us. And what's funny, is half the time we stress about things we have no control over! So why waste your time? Whenever I get stressed now, I lay in bed, or sit in a chair...and just focus on my breathe for at least 5 minutes. Sit and nothing. I think we need that nothingness in our crazy hectic lives, because all we know is chaos, so when we don't have it, we create it.
Love: We cannot love others unless we love ourselves- it just doesn't work that way. The other thing I have learned, is why limit ourselves? Love everything, not just some things. Because ultimately, we are all equal, and ultimately, everyone and everything needs a little lovin'. It's almost as if we have learned to only give love to those who are closest to us, but why? What is stopping us from giving love to everyone who comes through our lives? After all, all we want to be is loved by everyone, so why not love everyone?
Love, relax, and let go are the three main things I have learned in taking time to myself. Everyone needs their space- if you are in a relationship that is built around each other, it may be hard, but take some time for yourselves! You need it. You are your own entity, and the significant other is supposed to respect and support you.
-Miss Optimistic
The last couple days have quite possibly been a few of the best. Not because the school year is coming to a close, and I am stuck up at school pretty much by myself, but because I have had lots of time to think, to have a little time for myself. What I have learned over the last few days may or may not help you, but the most important thing, is that you and your happiness always come first.
Obsession: something we throw ourselves into without even really knowing it. I'll be the first to admit, and those that know me will agree, I have a little bit of OCD. I like knowing how things will turn out, I like things in certain places, and am very observant. But when OCD and a relationship merge, that's when issues arise. I think often times, we are all so used to this fairytale ending, that when we aren't getting this perfect relationship we freak out. Then try to control the whole situation, analyze, argue, correct, fix, or any other verb you'd like to ad in there, to get the relationship to where you want it to be. We obsess, scrutinize, and nit pick at little things that really don't even matter. My relationship I have talked about in previous posts is on hold for now, becuase we both became so obsessed with it. Not because we were both OCD, but I'm not even really sure how we did. We spent all our time together, texted all the time, and then when we were together it was just the every day routine that we had fallen into.
My first realization of having time to myself is, let go. Stop obsessing over things that may not be going the way you want them to, because no matter how hard you try to change them your life is going to work out how it wants to.
"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be." - Douglas Adams
If we all just realize that we will always end up where we need to be, obsession will subside, and happiness and that carefree feeling will take over.
Stress: We all do it whether we realize it or not. There is always something in our lives that eats away at us and gets under our skin, but why? Why do we care so much about these little things that dig into us. And what's funny, is half the time we stress about things we have no control over! So why waste your time? Whenever I get stressed now, I lay in bed, or sit in a chair...and just focus on my breathe for at least 5 minutes. Sit and nothing. I think we need that nothingness in our crazy hectic lives, because all we know is chaos, so when we don't have it, we create it.
Love: We cannot love others unless we love ourselves- it just doesn't work that way. The other thing I have learned, is why limit ourselves? Love everything, not just some things. Because ultimately, we are all equal, and ultimately, everyone and everything needs a little lovin'. It's almost as if we have learned to only give love to those who are closest to us, but why? What is stopping us from giving love to everyone who comes through our lives? After all, all we want to be is loved by everyone, so why not love everyone?
Love, relax, and let go are the three main things I have learned in taking time to myself. Everyone needs their space- if you are in a relationship that is built around each other, it may be hard, but take some time for yourselves! You need it. You are your own entity, and the significant other is supposed to respect and support you.
-Miss Optimistic
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Life Happens All Too Quickly.
Hello Internet-
It's been a long time, I know. But life got a little hectic and quite frankly school and other obligations took over. My first post back, I want to share a piece I had to write for a class. I hope you enjoy.
Life happens all too quickly. We try to change, exchange, or rearrange our lives. We try so hard to understand, be a woman or a man, and have everything planned. But why do we rush my friend? We take too many things for granted that it's hard to see how fast life passes us by. Here I see people who are constantly pessimistic, ballistic, and far from logistic. Life happens all too quickly. People think that fun is getting drunk then having a one-night stand, being canned while the next day being called bland. Something fun is not remembering the next day just to say, "hahahaha!! I acted that way?!" But, life happens all too quickly.
We stop appreciating why we are here, and thank god for the beer that makes us unclear. Life happens all too quickly to be afraid of fear. I mean that's why we all get wasted, our faces pasted all over the Internet and a few minutes later be tasted by someone you don't even know; a way to forget all the regret that lives in our body and is released through sweat.
My friend, Life happens all too quickly to think that your thong hanging out of your pants, screaming chants, and wanting implants to change a perfectly imperfect body are normal. They say we always want what we don't have, but life just happens all too quickly. Enjoy what you can, stop trying to plan, because otherwise you are just like a con man. Acting like you are someone that you really aren't, neglecting the spot you've been given here. Listen to me: life happens all too quickly. So when push comes to shove, remember the love that continues to grow inside of you. Smile to the man on the street asking for some change, if you take a minute you will realize he's not strange, if anything take a lesson that you need to rearrange what is most important in this life, because life happens all too quickly.
So summer is here and I will have lots of time of nothing to write. :)
-Miss Optimistic
It's been a long time, I know. But life got a little hectic and quite frankly school and other obligations took over. My first post back, I want to share a piece I had to write for a class. I hope you enjoy.
Life happens all too quickly. We try to change, exchange, or rearrange our lives. We try so hard to understand, be a woman or a man, and have everything planned. But why do we rush my friend? We take too many things for granted that it's hard to see how fast life passes us by. Here I see people who are constantly pessimistic, ballistic, and far from logistic. Life happens all too quickly. People think that fun is getting drunk then having a one-night stand, being canned while the next day being called bland. Something fun is not remembering the next day just to say, "hahahaha!! I acted that way?!" But, life happens all too quickly.
We stop appreciating why we are here, and thank god for the beer that makes us unclear. Life happens all too quickly to be afraid of fear. I mean that's why we all get wasted, our faces pasted all over the Internet and a few minutes later be tasted by someone you don't even know; a way to forget all the regret that lives in our body and is released through sweat.
My friend, Life happens all too quickly to think that your thong hanging out of your pants, screaming chants, and wanting implants to change a perfectly imperfect body are normal. They say we always want what we don't have, but life just happens all too quickly. Enjoy what you can, stop trying to plan, because otherwise you are just like a con man. Acting like you are someone that you really aren't, neglecting the spot you've been given here. Listen to me: life happens all too quickly. So when push comes to shove, remember the love that continues to grow inside of you. Smile to the man on the street asking for some change, if you take a minute you will realize he's not strange, if anything take a lesson that you need to rearrange what is most important in this life, because life happens all too quickly.
So summer is here and I will have lots of time of nothing to write. :)
-Miss Optimistic
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Repeat
Hello Internet-
Been a while, I know. Life has been beyond hectic though. A lot of times I write here about advice, and this time I'm not sure I have any.
It seems the advice I have been giving myself, as well as here, has only just backfired for me. I keep telling myself only up from here, but things just keep happening to make my days feel longer and darker.
My grandfather was sent to the hospital the other day, and my grandma has a pretty bad case of alzheimers and cannot stay alone in her home. On top of my mom having to try and deal with all of that, and figure out how to help her mom, she's going through a divorce. There is never enough time in the day to do all we need to do. I think we need to all realize that life continues to be full with twists and turns, and wasting our energy and time fighting the small things does no good for us. When other things are going on that are clearly more tragic, why waste hours dwelling on a small little detail?
I don't know...I can't even think.
-Miss Optimistic
Been a while, I know. Life has been beyond hectic though. A lot of times I write here about advice, and this time I'm not sure I have any.
It seems the advice I have been giving myself, as well as here, has only just backfired for me. I keep telling myself only up from here, but things just keep happening to make my days feel longer and darker.
My grandfather was sent to the hospital the other day, and my grandma has a pretty bad case of alzheimers and cannot stay alone in her home. On top of my mom having to try and deal with all of that, and figure out how to help her mom, she's going through a divorce. There is never enough time in the day to do all we need to do. I think we need to all realize that life continues to be full with twists and turns, and wasting our energy and time fighting the small things does no good for us. When other things are going on that are clearly more tragic, why waste hours dwelling on a small little detail?
I don't know...I can't even think.
-Miss Optimistic
Friday, January 21, 2011
"Dream Week"
Hello Internet-
I know it's a little late, but I figure I need to honor an incredible man who once had a dream. I came across a quote by Martin Luther King Jr. and it says...
"We may have all come in different ships, but we're in the same boat now." - MLK Jr.
How true is this! There's this girl in one of my classes, and it's almost like she makes others feel bad for the life they had no choice of being in. She's black, a woman, and in the lower middle to lower class. (not that that matters) But the thing I was talking to my friend about is, is that there is almost this reverse discrimination, because of what the "whites" decided to do in the past. I for one had no choice in the color of my skin. I had no choice in the family I was put in, and had no choice in the economic class I was born into.
I think it's time that we let go of what our ancestors did and live. If you are of another color or religion, don't be angry for the history. I know that history is hard to hear. Sometimes, history affected you personally, and for that my heart goes out to you. I don't first hand know how that feels, but I can only imagine. We must all sail in the same direction in order to get to where we need to be.
I have a dream. I dream that all anger will subside. That one day, my baby girl won't be afraid to go to school because of people making fun of her, not because of her skin color, her religion, but because of what she's wearing. I have a dream that one day my homosexual son won't be harassed because of who he chooses to love. I have a dream that we will all come together and just love. That pain will subside, and genuine people will come back to show us how life should be. I believe we can create the destiny that we dream of, just like Martin Luther King did.
So Internet- with this post I am sharing with you my dream, of what I want for my children of the future, and yours. Benjamin Disraeli once said, "The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own." Let us show each other the good we all hold, and let go of the negative.
-Miss Optimistic
I know it's a little late, but I figure I need to honor an incredible man who once had a dream. I came across a quote by Martin Luther King Jr. and it says...
"We may have all come in different ships, but we're in the same boat now." - MLK Jr.
How true is this! There's this girl in one of my classes, and it's almost like she makes others feel bad for the life they had no choice of being in. She's black, a woman, and in the lower middle to lower class. (not that that matters) But the thing I was talking to my friend about is, is that there is almost this reverse discrimination, because of what the "whites" decided to do in the past. I for one had no choice in the color of my skin. I had no choice in the family I was put in, and had no choice in the economic class I was born into.
I think it's time that we let go of what our ancestors did and live. If you are of another color or religion, don't be angry for the history. I know that history is hard to hear. Sometimes, history affected you personally, and for that my heart goes out to you. I don't first hand know how that feels, but I can only imagine. We must all sail in the same direction in order to get to where we need to be.
I have a dream. I dream that all anger will subside. That one day, my baby girl won't be afraid to go to school because of people making fun of her, not because of her skin color, her religion, but because of what she's wearing. I have a dream that one day my homosexual son won't be harassed because of who he chooses to love. I have a dream that we will all come together and just love. That pain will subside, and genuine people will come back to show us how life should be. I believe we can create the destiny that we dream of, just like Martin Luther King did.
So Internet- with this post I am sharing with you my dream, of what I want for my children of the future, and yours. Benjamin Disraeli once said, "The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own." Let us show each other the good we all hold, and let go of the negative.
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Welcome to the New YEAR
Hello Internet-
So as the new year is beginning, and the old one is coming to a close, we need to ask ourselves...where are we going? What is it we want for this year? And, how should it be different than last year?
My goal for this year is to create my own happiness, I've been struggling a lot at school trying to be happy, and with everything that has been going on in my life. I don't know if I have talked about it before, but, a major change happened in my life this past year. I officially feel I have lost a father. Some information was found out that he now has another home, which looks almost identical to the one he used to live in, my home. He also may or may not have been having an affair with his secretary, regardless...what has happened is his business, not mine.
I met with him for dinner after all this information came about, and I told him I just wanted a father. He told me that I had to make an effort to keep in touch too..because this is all my fault that he "works" all the time and can't even answer my phone calls or texts. I tried for a bit, but was so disappointed when I realized that it was all the same. Nothing had changed. I was so hopeful that maybe I could actually start building a relationship with him, where instead it feels that we have drifted even more.
I didn't realize how much the whole situation was affecting me, until a friend of mine pointed it out. I have built my walls up so high again, that it's almost impossible for anyone to break them down. I lost a lot of trust in a lot of people, because we never know what people can do to us. The people we think may never hurt us can. I basically shut down. I stopped talking about things that were eating me up inside, and isolated myself with my boyfriend. Worst mistake I think I have ever made. I depended so much on him to make me feel better, and after 4-5 months of me still feeling the same, it almost feels like I lost faith in him. That I feel he may not be able to help me with situations.
Reality is: I just never brought it up...out of sight out of mind. I didn't want to think about it. I'd be fine and then it would pop in my head and then I'd uncontrollably start crying. It hurt. It ate me alive, until I lost a lot of who I was, who I had worked so hard to be. The vivacious, happy go lucky, everything happens for a reason girl. When I would try to bring it up, he just never understood. His family is always together talking, they are in each others business, etc. When I'm around his family, I can't not be happy...it's a family I've always wanted to be a part of. It's hard for someone to put themselves in other people's shoes- when they haven't seen a lot of disaster in their life.
I've been dealing with a life changing experience all on my own. I've been trying and trying to open up to people, but that trust just isn't there. I'm back to trying to control the world- and it's tiring. I want life to take me where I'm supposed to go, like I did for a while.
With the new year, I want to have faith. I want to enjoy my busy days. I want to let go of the things that have rotten inside of me. I want to be happy Internet, and you should be too. With new years comes a new way of thinking...mine is what it used to be...I'm just going back to the old old way of thinking :).
I wish you all a happy and prosperous new year!
-Miss Optimistic
So as the new year is beginning, and the old one is coming to a close, we need to ask ourselves...where are we going? What is it we want for this year? And, how should it be different than last year?
My goal for this year is to create my own happiness, I've been struggling a lot at school trying to be happy, and with everything that has been going on in my life. I don't know if I have talked about it before, but, a major change happened in my life this past year. I officially feel I have lost a father. Some information was found out that he now has another home, which looks almost identical to the one he used to live in, my home. He also may or may not have been having an affair with his secretary, regardless...what has happened is his business, not mine.
I met with him for dinner after all this information came about, and I told him I just wanted a father. He told me that I had to make an effort to keep in touch too..because this is all my fault that he "works" all the time and can't even answer my phone calls or texts. I tried for a bit, but was so disappointed when I realized that it was all the same. Nothing had changed. I was so hopeful that maybe I could actually start building a relationship with him, where instead it feels that we have drifted even more.
I didn't realize how much the whole situation was affecting me, until a friend of mine pointed it out. I have built my walls up so high again, that it's almost impossible for anyone to break them down. I lost a lot of trust in a lot of people, because we never know what people can do to us. The people we think may never hurt us can. I basically shut down. I stopped talking about things that were eating me up inside, and isolated myself with my boyfriend. Worst mistake I think I have ever made. I depended so much on him to make me feel better, and after 4-5 months of me still feeling the same, it almost feels like I lost faith in him. That I feel he may not be able to help me with situations.
Reality is: I just never brought it up...out of sight out of mind. I didn't want to think about it. I'd be fine and then it would pop in my head and then I'd uncontrollably start crying. It hurt. It ate me alive, until I lost a lot of who I was, who I had worked so hard to be. The vivacious, happy go lucky, everything happens for a reason girl. When I would try to bring it up, he just never understood. His family is always together talking, they are in each others business, etc. When I'm around his family, I can't not be happy...it's a family I've always wanted to be a part of. It's hard for someone to put themselves in other people's shoes- when they haven't seen a lot of disaster in their life.
I've been dealing with a life changing experience all on my own. I've been trying and trying to open up to people, but that trust just isn't there. I'm back to trying to control the world- and it's tiring. I want life to take me where I'm supposed to go, like I did for a while.
With the new year, I want to have faith. I want to enjoy my busy days. I want to let go of the things that have rotten inside of me. I want to be happy Internet, and you should be too. With new years comes a new way of thinking...mine is what it used to be...I'm just going back to the old old way of thinking :).
I wish you all a happy and prosperous new year!
-Miss Optimistic
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