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Stumbled upon this website literally...and figured you might want to check it out.
Just click on the link- it's gonna help me!
-Miss Optimistic
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Know what you want.
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Long time no see, yea yea yea. I know. Cannot believe a whole semester has passed since I last posted anything here. Not okay. But, being over in another country has opened my eyes, and I have learned quite a lot.
The first thing I have learned here is that I know what I want in my life and what is worth having in my life. All that other stuff is just stuff to pass the time, and I don't really need that. If you know what you want to surround yourself with, life will surround you with what you want.
It's funny because while being here, six hours ahead of all of my friends, it has really hit me who cares and who doesn't. There are people who I really didn't think I was that close with, yet they get in touch with me at least once a week. And now, I'm excited to go home to see these friends that are way closer than I think.
The only negative thing with knowing what you want to surround you, is you get a little bit more picky. I have become more easily fed up with peoples' bull shit and immatureness. I don't need to put myself around stress and anxiety when I don't want it in my life.
Separating yourself from your life isn't a bad thing. Sure you miss what is comfortable, but it also makes you appreciate the great things you have, and also shows you what you really don't care about or don't need.
Second thing I have learned/thought of here...
This quote I thought of while on a trip was:
"I don't have wishes I have goals, and I don't have regrets I have experiences." - Optimistic Voice
Use this quote if you like, just please quote me...you didn't think of it I did. :)
It's kinda something I've been preaching in a more realistic way I guess. Wishes are great and all, but wishing for something doesn't make it come to you. Having a goal to get it is what makes it come to you. STOP WISHING START DOING!! Also, don't wallow in what has happened- that's just regretting. Take those negative or positive things that have happened and see them as experiences. It's a more positive way to look at life, and makes you happier at the same time.
-Miss Optimistic
Long time no see, yea yea yea. I know. Cannot believe a whole semester has passed since I last posted anything here. Not okay. But, being over in another country has opened my eyes, and I have learned quite a lot.
The first thing I have learned here is that I know what I want in my life and what is worth having in my life. All that other stuff is just stuff to pass the time, and I don't really need that. If you know what you want to surround yourself with, life will surround you with what you want.
It's funny because while being here, six hours ahead of all of my friends, it has really hit me who cares and who doesn't. There are people who I really didn't think I was that close with, yet they get in touch with me at least once a week. And now, I'm excited to go home to see these friends that are way closer than I think.
The only negative thing with knowing what you want to surround you, is you get a little bit more picky. I have become more easily fed up with peoples' bull shit and immatureness. I don't need to put myself around stress and anxiety when I don't want it in my life.
Separating yourself from your life isn't a bad thing. Sure you miss what is comfortable, but it also makes you appreciate the great things you have, and also shows you what you really don't care about or don't need.
Second thing I have learned/thought of here...
This quote I thought of while on a trip was:
"I don't have wishes I have goals, and I don't have regrets I have experiences." - Optimistic Voice
Use this quote if you like, just please quote me...you didn't think of it I did. :)
It's kinda something I've been preaching in a more realistic way I guess. Wishes are great and all, but wishing for something doesn't make it come to you. Having a goal to get it is what makes it come to you. STOP WISHING START DOING!! Also, don't wallow in what has happened- that's just regretting. Take those negative or positive things that have happened and see them as experiences. It's a more positive way to look at life, and makes you happier at the same time.
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, July 31, 2011
Something New Everyday....
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So today, I found inspiration in a place that I let go. Hopefully he will come across this at some point. The reason I created this blog was to teach people. But how do I teach when I feel I'm not learning? I'm experiencing, but not things I find worthy of writing about. I'm not EXPERIENCING. I leave in 2 weeks for a semester abroad, and am more than excited to leave. As much as I love home, I tend to get in a lull when I am here...and everything just turns bland.
We apparently learn something new everyday, or so they say...so I should have a post for everyday...but I don't. (Obviously.) I think the point of this saying, is that we subconsciously learn something new everyday. We constantly observe, judge, see, hear, and talk about others, so we have to learn about others as we go along...but what do we consciously pick up? Little to nothing really...but when it comes to us in a similar situation we heard, saw, or observed we know exactly what to do. I think this blog (for me) has patience. It's not rushed or forced, it's reality within writing, for you to read- whether you like it or not.
Every now and then I always change the background to my computer. Before it was a quote I posted up here a while ago about how you shouldn't regret because at one point it was exactly what you wanted...something like that, and now, it says:
"If you're brave to say 'good bye', life will reward you with a new 'hello'. "
I hate good bye's personally. I never want to let anyone out ofmy life, and when I do...I always go back to them. I always wonder what they are doing, how I can help them, or how I should've changed things to keep them in my life.
I'm a free spirit- I think the best way to live is to just enjoy, so with the new good bye's I will be saying as I make my journey across the Atlantic, there will be plenty of hello's waiting for me :)
-Miss Optimistic
So today, I found inspiration in a place that I let go. Hopefully he will come across this at some point. The reason I created this blog was to teach people. But how do I teach when I feel I'm not learning? I'm experiencing, but not things I find worthy of writing about. I'm not EXPERIENCING. I leave in 2 weeks for a semester abroad, and am more than excited to leave. As much as I love home, I tend to get in a lull when I am here...and everything just turns bland.
We apparently learn something new everyday, or so they say...so I should have a post for everyday...but I don't. (Obviously.) I think the point of this saying, is that we subconsciously learn something new everyday. We constantly observe, judge, see, hear, and talk about others, so we have to learn about others as we go along...but what do we consciously pick up? Little to nothing really...but when it comes to us in a similar situation we heard, saw, or observed we know exactly what to do. I think this blog (for me) has patience. It's not rushed or forced, it's reality within writing, for you to read- whether you like it or not.
Every now and then I always change the background to my computer. Before it was a quote I posted up here a while ago about how you shouldn't regret because at one point it was exactly what you wanted...something like that, and now, it says:
"If you're brave to say 'good bye', life will reward you with a new 'hello'. "
I hate good bye's personally. I never want to let anyone out ofmy life, and when I do...I always go back to them. I always wonder what they are doing, how I can help them, or how I should've changed things to keep them in my life.
I'm a free spirit- I think the best way to live is to just enjoy, so with the new good bye's I will be saying as I make my journey across the Atlantic, there will be plenty of hello's waiting for me :)
-Miss Optimistic
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Most beautiful people...
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A quote I came across:
"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." - Elizabeth Kubler Ros
How great is that quote? It makes so much sense too. You know, when you get out of something that is so life changing, and you look back on how it made you stronger...you appreciate the sadness that came from the situation. In that case- make the best of the shitty things life gives you. It only makes you more beautiful.
Our souls grow with the lessons we learn. From pain, happiness, suffering, and every other emotion. With more emotions we experience the more we grow.
-Miss Optimistic
A quote I came across:
"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." - Elizabeth Kubler Ros
How great is that quote? It makes so much sense too. You know, when you get out of something that is so life changing, and you look back on how it made you stronger...you appreciate the sadness that came from the situation. In that case- make the best of the shitty things life gives you. It only makes you more beautiful.
Our souls grow with the lessons we learn. From pain, happiness, suffering, and every other emotion. With more emotions we experience the more we grow.
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, July 3, 2011
What could we use more of?
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A couple days ago I wathced a movie called "Listen to your heart". It's a story about a struggling musician in NYC who ends up falling in love with a deaf girl. Then the girls mom sucks and tries to control her and split them up. Eventually the girl comes around and tell her mom off and goes to find her man- only to find out he's dying of cancer now...the uncurable kind too. They play the "newlywed" game where a question is asked and you have to try and guess what the other person is going to say. The question was what could you never have enough of? The girl answered books, and the boy answered love.
Come to think about it, our society's problem is that we just don't love enough. We think that the only kind of love is one shared between a man and a woman- but think about it we love our family, friends, strangers, etc. We need to keep spreading love because I don't think anyone gets enough of it. We consume ourselves in the non stop cycle we call life. Finding a head over heals, butterflies in the stomach, non stop happy love is great, but we need to remember that there is that love that we need between friends, between family, in general. Share the love you have and you will get the love you deserve back.
Love you :)
-Miss Optimstic
A couple days ago I wathced a movie called "Listen to your heart". It's a story about a struggling musician in NYC who ends up falling in love with a deaf girl. Then the girls mom sucks and tries to control her and split them up. Eventually the girl comes around and tell her mom off and goes to find her man- only to find out he's dying of cancer now...the uncurable kind too. They play the "newlywed" game where a question is asked and you have to try and guess what the other person is going to say. The question was what could you never have enough of? The girl answered books, and the boy answered love.
Come to think about it, our society's problem is that we just don't love enough. We think that the only kind of love is one shared between a man and a woman- but think about it we love our family, friends, strangers, etc. We need to keep spreading love because I don't think anyone gets enough of it. We consume ourselves in the non stop cycle we call life. Finding a head over heals, butterflies in the stomach, non stop happy love is great, but we need to remember that there is that love that we need between friends, between family, in general. Share the love you have and you will get the love you deserve back.
Love you :)
-Miss Optimstic
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Monday, June 6, 2011
So Demanding...
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Now that I have tons of time to let my mind wander and think on a day to day basis...I started thinking about all the things that we do. We are a culture or a species of habit. We do things that we are comfortable with doing, and then get pissed when we are served the same old shit on a platter.
For example... I always tend to find people, or they find me, that never seem to stick around. But, what if it's not that they don't stick around, it's that I've just been doing something over and over again to make people not want to stay? Not a great example, but hopefully you get the idea.
"If you do what you have always done, you'll get what you have always gotten." -Anon
We expect more from new people that come into our lives, we expect more from new situations, we just expect too much I think. Try something new and take chances. What do you have to lose? So it could be a little embarrassing or a little disappointing, but think about the end result. By not doing the same habitual things over and over again, we will always have new situations and new moments to take chances. The only thing that we fear is fear itself...because we are so scared to step out of our comfort zone. But have you ever really tried?
When I think about the quote from Anon, I immediately think of the movie "Yes Man" with Jim Carey. If you haven't seen it- do it...it's amazing what you come across when you just say yes and take a little leap of faith.
I recently have made some choices that are taking a huge leap of faith. As I told a friend...I'm taking a chance. On what- he has no idea...but the idea is is that I should always be taking chances, we should always be taking risks. We never know how far we can go if we are stuck in the same spot.
My challenge to myself, join me if you'd like, is to not restrict myself. Especially with traveling abroad next semester, I don't want there to be limits. I mean, I've already jumped off a bridge, gone white water rafting (I had a bad experience with water when I was younger), gone waterfall repelling, and more. I have not enjoyed these activities in the moment as they scared the shit out of me, but when you are done, you just feel such relief that you did something you never thought you would do.
Try it.
-Miss Optimistic
Now that I have tons of time to let my mind wander and think on a day to day basis...I started thinking about all the things that we do. We are a culture or a species of habit. We do things that we are comfortable with doing, and then get pissed when we are served the same old shit on a platter.
For example... I always tend to find people, or they find me, that never seem to stick around. But, what if it's not that they don't stick around, it's that I've just been doing something over and over again to make people not want to stay? Not a great example, but hopefully you get the idea.
"If you do what you have always done, you'll get what you have always gotten." -Anon
We expect more from new people that come into our lives, we expect more from new situations, we just expect too much I think. Try something new and take chances. What do you have to lose? So it could be a little embarrassing or a little disappointing, but think about the end result. By not doing the same habitual things over and over again, we will always have new situations and new moments to take chances. The only thing that we fear is fear itself...because we are so scared to step out of our comfort zone. But have you ever really tried?
When I think about the quote from Anon, I immediately think of the movie "Yes Man" with Jim Carey. If you haven't seen it- do it...it's amazing what you come across when you just say yes and take a little leap of faith.
I recently have made some choices that are taking a huge leap of faith. As I told a friend...I'm taking a chance. On what- he has no idea...but the idea is is that I should always be taking chances, we should always be taking risks. We never know how far we can go if we are stuck in the same spot.
My challenge to myself, join me if you'd like, is to not restrict myself. Especially with traveling abroad next semester, I don't want there to be limits. I mean, I've already jumped off a bridge, gone white water rafting (I had a bad experience with water when I was younger), gone waterfall repelling, and more. I have not enjoyed these activities in the moment as they scared the shit out of me, but when you are done, you just feel such relief that you did something you never thought you would do.
Try it.
-Miss Optimistic
Thursday, June 2, 2011
The Things You Find...
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So, now that life has calmed down quite a bit...I went through all the picture quotes I have saved to tell you all about. In between studying or whatever I am doing, I always stumble...worst procrastination invention ever. BUT! I always come across these great things that help me through my days, and now I get to share them with you :)
Not sure when I found this one, but that's irrelevant. I found it again today.
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." - Emerson.
Not only do Emerson's words continue to resonate in my head after reading it, but his words are beyond truthful. So many times do I let what happened the day before, or even the hour before ruin my day. I continue to think about what I could have done or should have done to change the situation, or I just think about the situation in general. We let our old nonsense haunt us in a way that we can't just let ourselves live life and enjoy it.
Enjoy each day, hour, minute, or second. We have more to come to make up for the crappy ones that come our way.
-Miss Optimistic
So, now that life has calmed down quite a bit...I went through all the picture quotes I have saved to tell you all about. In between studying or whatever I am doing, I always stumble...worst procrastination invention ever. BUT! I always come across these great things that help me through my days, and now I get to share them with you :)
Not sure when I found this one, but that's irrelevant. I found it again today.
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." - Emerson.
Not only do Emerson's words continue to resonate in my head after reading it, but his words are beyond truthful. So many times do I let what happened the day before, or even the hour before ruin my day. I continue to think about what I could have done or should have done to change the situation, or I just think about the situation in general. We let our old nonsense haunt us in a way that we can't just let ourselves live life and enjoy it.
Enjoy each day, hour, minute, or second. We have more to come to make up for the crappy ones that come our way.
-Miss Optimistic
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Look at Yourself.
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Today I stumbled upon quite an interesting video. Look at yourself after watching this... I can guarantee, you will think very differently. You know, even though I preach to just let go, to be happy, to love as much as you can, etc., a lot of times it is hard to let go of emotions and situations that we care about, I struggle everyday with it. I pray this video stays in my mind. We can be whatever we want to be, do whatever we want, and get wherever we want to...all we have to do is believe.
So, my challenge to you internet- is set up some goals today. What do you believe? And where do you want to be in 5, maybe 10 years? Then, ask yourself, what is stopping you?
Nothing stopped this man, so why let life stop you?
-Miss Optimistic
Today I stumbled upon quite an interesting video. Look at yourself after watching this... I can guarantee, you will think very differently. You know, even though I preach to just let go, to be happy, to love as much as you can, etc., a lot of times it is hard to let go of emotions and situations that we care about, I struggle everyday with it. I pray this video stays in my mind. We can be whatever we want to be, do whatever we want, and get wherever we want to...all we have to do is believe.
So, my challenge to you internet- is set up some goals today. What do you believe? And where do you want to be in 5, maybe 10 years? Then, ask yourself, what is stopping you?
Nothing stopped this man, so why let life stop you?
-Miss Optimistic
Friday, May 20, 2011
Detox.
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So as we know after a change in our lives, the best thing to do is go through and clean out the clutter in our lives. Since my parents are currently going through a divorce, as this seems to be the trend lately, my mom has decided to go through EVERYTHING and get rid of what she doesn't want around the house anymore. She also decided to repaint almost every room in the house- well that's my summer job actually. The first room I have to paint...is mine. So, before Monday when I actually start working, I have to go through everything in all of my room get rid of what I don't want, keep what I do, and then put it all somewhere.
Although I must say this could not have been better timing. After getting some space of myself, I don't know what I would be doing other than sitting in my room all day thinking. It's funny, because as I go through all my clothes, books, jewelry, all of my belongings, and split them into keep or don't keep piles, I start thinking about what's really important. We tend to hoard and hold onto things that are markers in our lives, but the tighter and longer we hold on to them, the less we even remember about it. I've decided I'm going to let the memories speak for themselves, and the ones that matter will carry with me forever, and the ones that don't weren't meant to last.
Especially with the world apparently ending soon, why clutter a life that is meant to be so simple?
Think about it..
-Miss Optimistic
So as we know after a change in our lives, the best thing to do is go through and clean out the clutter in our lives. Since my parents are currently going through a divorce, as this seems to be the trend lately, my mom has decided to go through EVERYTHING and get rid of what she doesn't want around the house anymore. She also decided to repaint almost every room in the house- well that's my summer job actually. The first room I have to paint...is mine. So, before Monday when I actually start working, I have to go through everything in all of my room get rid of what I don't want, keep what I do, and then put it all somewhere.
Although I must say this could not have been better timing. After getting some space of myself, I don't know what I would be doing other than sitting in my room all day thinking. It's funny, because as I go through all my clothes, books, jewelry, all of my belongings, and split them into keep or don't keep piles, I start thinking about what's really important. We tend to hoard and hold onto things that are markers in our lives, but the tighter and longer we hold on to them, the less we even remember about it. I've decided I'm going to let the memories speak for themselves, and the ones that matter will carry with me forever, and the ones that don't weren't meant to last.
Especially with the world apparently ending soon, why clutter a life that is meant to be so simple?
Think about it..
-Miss Optimistic
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
A New Me
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So lately, I have been stumbling on a lot of blogs that talks about the negatives of shampoo and hair products. Basically...what these blogs are saying is we have been raised to use these products that actually are just harming out locks instead of benefiting them like they advertise. Have dandruff anyone? Apparently the reason why you are probably experiencing those lovely white flakes on your shoulder is due to the chemicals that are "hidden" in your shampoo. Dried out and split ends? Well that's going to happen regardless from wear and tear, but basically the chemicals in our shampoos and conditioners are what is causing the wear and tear to happen faster.
So- I read somewhere that baking soda is the perfect solution, it helps absorb the oil and wash it out. Basically my point: I am going all natural. I will still wash my body, with natural soaps...I would just smell if I didn't, but I love my hair. I stopped dying it about a year ago, because dying your hair stunts the growth and over all is terrible for hair. Now, I am going to stop washing it with these wonderfully smelling shampoos/conditioners.
It's funny...becuase I've told a couple people about my project, and they all get disgusted. My mom was basically like what...I'm sure there are organic shampoos out there that will do just a good of a job. But that's the thing...I don't WANT any shampoos or conditioners. The reason our hair gets so oily so quickly is because we wash it every day, the chemicals dry it out and then our heads produce oil to moisture our hair, and then it just looks gross. So we are in this process of grossness, that really isn't helping anyone- not even the earth.
Eventually, my hair will stop producing as much oil, and I won't even have to rinse it very often. I plan on starting to wash it with baking soda once a week, and then move to 2 times a week, with a rinse once a week, and then continue to spread it out. Eventually I won't need the baking soda at all hopefully. Call me gross, but these blogs actually say it makes your hair look healthier and have more volume...so I'm going to give it a try :)
I'm also going to stop using my make up, again. If there is a special occasion, of course, but the everyday wear and tear on my skin isn't healthy. My one friend asked if I was becoming a hippie and I laughed. It's not that I'm becoming a hippie, I'm just going to what feels natural or good to me. I need a new start, a healed soul that will get me where I need to be. And, if me changing my habits helps me get there, so be it :)
We all deserve to be beautiful, and we should be even if it seems gross and unnatural. My experiment is probably more natural/healthy than what you are thought is "normal".
-Miss Optimistic
So lately, I have been stumbling on a lot of blogs that talks about the negatives of shampoo and hair products. Basically...what these blogs are saying is we have been raised to use these products that actually are just harming out locks instead of benefiting them like they advertise. Have dandruff anyone? Apparently the reason why you are probably experiencing those lovely white flakes on your shoulder is due to the chemicals that are "hidden" in your shampoo. Dried out and split ends? Well that's going to happen regardless from wear and tear, but basically the chemicals in our shampoos and conditioners are what is causing the wear and tear to happen faster.
So- I read somewhere that baking soda is the perfect solution, it helps absorb the oil and wash it out. Basically my point: I am going all natural. I will still wash my body, with natural soaps...I would just smell if I didn't, but I love my hair. I stopped dying it about a year ago, because dying your hair stunts the growth and over all is terrible for hair. Now, I am going to stop washing it with these wonderfully smelling shampoos/conditioners.
It's funny...becuase I've told a couple people about my project, and they all get disgusted. My mom was basically like what...I'm sure there are organic shampoos out there that will do just a good of a job. But that's the thing...I don't WANT any shampoos or conditioners. The reason our hair gets so oily so quickly is because we wash it every day, the chemicals dry it out and then our heads produce oil to moisture our hair, and then it just looks gross. So we are in this process of grossness, that really isn't helping anyone- not even the earth.
Eventually, my hair will stop producing as much oil, and I won't even have to rinse it very often. I plan on starting to wash it with baking soda once a week, and then move to 2 times a week, with a rinse once a week, and then continue to spread it out. Eventually I won't need the baking soda at all hopefully. Call me gross, but these blogs actually say it makes your hair look healthier and have more volume...so I'm going to give it a try :)
I'm also going to stop using my make up, again. If there is a special occasion, of course, but the everyday wear and tear on my skin isn't healthy. My one friend asked if I was becoming a hippie and I laughed. It's not that I'm becoming a hippie, I'm just going to what feels natural or good to me. I need a new start, a healed soul that will get me where I need to be. And, if me changing my habits helps me get there, so be it :)
We all deserve to be beautiful, and we should be even if it seems gross and unnatural. My experiment is probably more natural/healthy than what you are thought is "normal".
-Miss Optimistic
Saturday, May 14, 2011
A little time for youreslf.
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The last couple days have quite possibly been a few of the best. Not because the school year is coming to a close, and I am stuck up at school pretty much by myself, but because I have had lots of time to think, to have a little time for myself. What I have learned over the last few days may or may not help you, but the most important thing, is that you and your happiness always come first.
Obsession: something we throw ourselves into without even really knowing it. I'll be the first to admit, and those that know me will agree, I have a little bit of OCD. I like knowing how things will turn out, I like things in certain places, and am very observant. But when OCD and a relationship merge, that's when issues arise. I think often times, we are all so used to this fairytale ending, that when we aren't getting this perfect relationship we freak out. Then try to control the whole situation, analyze, argue, correct, fix, or any other verb you'd like to ad in there, to get the relationship to where you want it to be. We obsess, scrutinize, and nit pick at little things that really don't even matter. My relationship I have talked about in previous posts is on hold for now, becuase we both became so obsessed with it. Not because we were both OCD, but I'm not even really sure how we did. We spent all our time together, texted all the time, and then when we were together it was just the every day routine that we had fallen into.
My first realization of having time to myself is, let go. Stop obsessing over things that may not be going the way you want them to, because no matter how hard you try to change them your life is going to work out how it wants to.
"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be." - Douglas Adams
If we all just realize that we will always end up where we need to be, obsession will subside, and happiness and that carefree feeling will take over.
Stress: We all do it whether we realize it or not. There is always something in our lives that eats away at us and gets under our skin, but why? Why do we care so much about these little things that dig into us. And what's funny, is half the time we stress about things we have no control over! So why waste your time? Whenever I get stressed now, I lay in bed, or sit in a chair...and just focus on my breathe for at least 5 minutes. Sit and nothing. I think we need that nothingness in our crazy hectic lives, because all we know is chaos, so when we don't have it, we create it.
Love: We cannot love others unless we love ourselves- it just doesn't work that way. The other thing I have learned, is why limit ourselves? Love everything, not just some things. Because ultimately, we are all equal, and ultimately, everyone and everything needs a little lovin'. It's almost as if we have learned to only give love to those who are closest to us, but why? What is stopping us from giving love to everyone who comes through our lives? After all, all we want to be is loved by everyone, so why not love everyone?
Love, relax, and let go are the three main things I have learned in taking time to myself. Everyone needs their space- if you are in a relationship that is built around each other, it may be hard, but take some time for yourselves! You need it. You are your own entity, and the significant other is supposed to respect and support you.
-Miss Optimistic
The last couple days have quite possibly been a few of the best. Not because the school year is coming to a close, and I am stuck up at school pretty much by myself, but because I have had lots of time to think, to have a little time for myself. What I have learned over the last few days may or may not help you, but the most important thing, is that you and your happiness always come first.
Obsession: something we throw ourselves into without even really knowing it. I'll be the first to admit, and those that know me will agree, I have a little bit of OCD. I like knowing how things will turn out, I like things in certain places, and am very observant. But when OCD and a relationship merge, that's when issues arise. I think often times, we are all so used to this fairytale ending, that when we aren't getting this perfect relationship we freak out. Then try to control the whole situation, analyze, argue, correct, fix, or any other verb you'd like to ad in there, to get the relationship to where you want it to be. We obsess, scrutinize, and nit pick at little things that really don't even matter. My relationship I have talked about in previous posts is on hold for now, becuase we both became so obsessed with it. Not because we were both OCD, but I'm not even really sure how we did. We spent all our time together, texted all the time, and then when we were together it was just the every day routine that we had fallen into.
My first realization of having time to myself is, let go. Stop obsessing over things that may not be going the way you want them to, because no matter how hard you try to change them your life is going to work out how it wants to.
"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be." - Douglas Adams
If we all just realize that we will always end up where we need to be, obsession will subside, and happiness and that carefree feeling will take over.
Stress: We all do it whether we realize it or not. There is always something in our lives that eats away at us and gets under our skin, but why? Why do we care so much about these little things that dig into us. And what's funny, is half the time we stress about things we have no control over! So why waste your time? Whenever I get stressed now, I lay in bed, or sit in a chair...and just focus on my breathe for at least 5 minutes. Sit and nothing. I think we need that nothingness in our crazy hectic lives, because all we know is chaos, so when we don't have it, we create it.
Love: We cannot love others unless we love ourselves- it just doesn't work that way. The other thing I have learned, is why limit ourselves? Love everything, not just some things. Because ultimately, we are all equal, and ultimately, everyone and everything needs a little lovin'. It's almost as if we have learned to only give love to those who are closest to us, but why? What is stopping us from giving love to everyone who comes through our lives? After all, all we want to be is loved by everyone, so why not love everyone?
Love, relax, and let go are the three main things I have learned in taking time to myself. Everyone needs their space- if you are in a relationship that is built around each other, it may be hard, but take some time for yourselves! You need it. You are your own entity, and the significant other is supposed to respect and support you.
-Miss Optimistic
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Life Happens All Too Quickly.
Hello Internet-
It's been a long time, I know. But life got a little hectic and quite frankly school and other obligations took over. My first post back, I want to share a piece I had to write for a class. I hope you enjoy.
Life happens all too quickly. We try to change, exchange, or rearrange our lives. We try so hard to understand, be a woman or a man, and have everything planned. But why do we rush my friend? We take too many things for granted that it's hard to see how fast life passes us by. Here I see people who are constantly pessimistic, ballistic, and far from logistic. Life happens all too quickly. People think that fun is getting drunk then having a one-night stand, being canned while the next day being called bland. Something fun is not remembering the next day just to say, "hahahaha!! I acted that way?!" But, life happens all too quickly.
We stop appreciating why we are here, and thank god for the beer that makes us unclear. Life happens all too quickly to be afraid of fear. I mean that's why we all get wasted, our faces pasted all over the Internet and a few minutes later be tasted by someone you don't even know; a way to forget all the regret that lives in our body and is released through sweat.
My friend, Life happens all too quickly to think that your thong hanging out of your pants, screaming chants, and wanting implants to change a perfectly imperfect body are normal. They say we always want what we don't have, but life just happens all too quickly. Enjoy what you can, stop trying to plan, because otherwise you are just like a con man. Acting like you are someone that you really aren't, neglecting the spot you've been given here. Listen to me: life happens all too quickly. So when push comes to shove, remember the love that continues to grow inside of you. Smile to the man on the street asking for some change, if you take a minute you will realize he's not strange, if anything take a lesson that you need to rearrange what is most important in this life, because life happens all too quickly.
So summer is here and I will have lots of time of nothing to write. :)
-Miss Optimistic
It's been a long time, I know. But life got a little hectic and quite frankly school and other obligations took over. My first post back, I want to share a piece I had to write for a class. I hope you enjoy.
Life happens all too quickly. We try to change, exchange, or rearrange our lives. We try so hard to understand, be a woman or a man, and have everything planned. But why do we rush my friend? We take too many things for granted that it's hard to see how fast life passes us by. Here I see people who are constantly pessimistic, ballistic, and far from logistic. Life happens all too quickly. People think that fun is getting drunk then having a one-night stand, being canned while the next day being called bland. Something fun is not remembering the next day just to say, "hahahaha!! I acted that way?!" But, life happens all too quickly.
We stop appreciating why we are here, and thank god for the beer that makes us unclear. Life happens all too quickly to be afraid of fear. I mean that's why we all get wasted, our faces pasted all over the Internet and a few minutes later be tasted by someone you don't even know; a way to forget all the regret that lives in our body and is released through sweat.
My friend, Life happens all too quickly to think that your thong hanging out of your pants, screaming chants, and wanting implants to change a perfectly imperfect body are normal. They say we always want what we don't have, but life just happens all too quickly. Enjoy what you can, stop trying to plan, because otherwise you are just like a con man. Acting like you are someone that you really aren't, neglecting the spot you've been given here. Listen to me: life happens all too quickly. So when push comes to shove, remember the love that continues to grow inside of you. Smile to the man on the street asking for some change, if you take a minute you will realize he's not strange, if anything take a lesson that you need to rearrange what is most important in this life, because life happens all too quickly.
So summer is here and I will have lots of time of nothing to write. :)
-Miss Optimistic
Saturday, March 5, 2011
Repeat
Hello Internet-
Been a while, I know. Life has been beyond hectic though. A lot of times I write here about advice, and this time I'm not sure I have any.
It seems the advice I have been giving myself, as well as here, has only just backfired for me. I keep telling myself only up from here, but things just keep happening to make my days feel longer and darker.
My grandfather was sent to the hospital the other day, and my grandma has a pretty bad case of alzheimers and cannot stay alone in her home. On top of my mom having to try and deal with all of that, and figure out how to help her mom, she's going through a divorce. There is never enough time in the day to do all we need to do. I think we need to all realize that life continues to be full with twists and turns, and wasting our energy and time fighting the small things does no good for us. When other things are going on that are clearly more tragic, why waste hours dwelling on a small little detail?
I don't know...I can't even think.
-Miss Optimistic
Been a while, I know. Life has been beyond hectic though. A lot of times I write here about advice, and this time I'm not sure I have any.
It seems the advice I have been giving myself, as well as here, has only just backfired for me. I keep telling myself only up from here, but things just keep happening to make my days feel longer and darker.
My grandfather was sent to the hospital the other day, and my grandma has a pretty bad case of alzheimers and cannot stay alone in her home. On top of my mom having to try and deal with all of that, and figure out how to help her mom, she's going through a divorce. There is never enough time in the day to do all we need to do. I think we need to all realize that life continues to be full with twists and turns, and wasting our energy and time fighting the small things does no good for us. When other things are going on that are clearly more tragic, why waste hours dwelling on a small little detail?
I don't know...I can't even think.
-Miss Optimistic
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