The "R" Factor.

Hello Internet:

Today started out good. Slept in late, almost missed my first class, yet again :-). But for some reason I forced myself out of bed, and made myself get to class. Sit through class, had a quiz, leave early, go talk to another teacher about material on our test on Monday, go to Starbucks.

As I'm waiting in the ridiculously long line at the coffee shop, I was texting (no surprise there). A man to my right goes, "I guess it's the thing to do: text in line?"

Confused at the small talk he was trying to make I replied, "Excuse me?" Really I just didn't hear him. So, he repeated himself. Then goes into detail are you a student here? What's your major? I replied. Then I asked what he was doing here, visiting?

This man replies, no I work with a management company and am giving a speech at your school today.

(my eyes widen...considering my plan in college is to dual major in management. HELLO!!!! RED FLAG WAVING!! PAY ATTENTION!)

So as I ask more about what he's going to be talking about we get into this 30 minute conversation about life pretty much. I mean he was talking about his "business" and the theories he has with his business, but all awhile it all intertwined with the book I talk so highly about The Secret.

So anyway, he explains to me: Three men can go through the same experience. One man can go through it and lose sight of who he is. Get defeated by the tragedy that just happened. The loss in his business if you will. Another man may go through the same experience and not be moved by it. The business stays consistent. The third man goes through the same experience and thrives from this tragedy. Learns from it and makes his business successful.

(Sounds to me like he's talking about not just business but life.)

So we get to the line, order drinks, etc. While we wait I had to ask.

"Have you ever read this book called The Secret by Rhonda Byrne?"

His response:

"I always read. I have read everything, but my only problem with The Secret, is I don't think it's about the law of attraction and wanting things to come to you. I think it's about the person being effective, and being aware of their life. (HOLY SHIT THIS MAN UNDERSTANDS MY MIND!!!!- is what was going through my mind.) It's funny because a lot of people are just oblivious to their flaws, their strengths, what their doing in their life; they just don't realize who they are. The thing is, is people try to criticize, to help, and people see it as bad and get defensive. If people accepted the criticism and were more aware and effective with how they ran their life people would be much happier and successful. When I was talking before about the situation and the three men, there are always going to be negatives and positives in our lives. It's how we maneuver around all these obstacles that make us either a successful person or a not successful person."


The man is so right. By the way, his name I later found out is Tim Kight. Check out his website- may be some useful information.

www.focus3.biz

And, he also told me about this book he's coming out with called- you guessed it.

"The R Factor"

LOOK FOR IT ON BOOK SHELVES I PROMISE YOU THIS MAN KNOWS WHAT HE IS TALKING ABOUT!


But think about it, we always are looking at the negative things, and not the positives in the situation. Like I have talked about death before, so did he. He said people need to start using that as a way to better themselves. Basically, see the optimistic side to things.

After the long chit chat, He says: "Maybe our paths will cross again".


NOW!! If I have learned anything from The Secret, is that things happen for a reason. Whether you attract them to yourself or not.

I was supposed to have that conversation, and supposed to be at starbucks and be late to help a friend for that reason. Life works in funny ways Internet.

Start looking at how things are kinda just handed to you. Start paying attention to the little things, because BIG things could happen from them.

Enjoy the day Internet...I am :-)

-Miss Optimistic

Everything Happens For a Reason...?

Hello Internet:

As I was walking to where ever I was getting to this morning with my Ipod which is always on shuffle...a song came on that got me thinking...what if we are all meant for one person.
Silly, I know, but honestly the song "Won't Stop" by onerepublic, made me really really consider.

In my whole lifetime I have never felt like I was in love. Never once have I gotten that urge to consider being with that one guy for an extended period of time. For me I feel love should be "easy", but as we all know, one of my favorite sayings being is, "If it's easy, it ain't worth it." I once told a guy that I have never had a long relationship because it never seems to just fit...like two puzzle pieces, and what did he say in return?

Boy: "It may be easy in the beginning but love is something you have to work for. Something both people want unconditionally and will do anything to keep it going."

I had never heard something like that, of course "love" isn't as easy as me and my mom, and family's love. I LOVE MY FAMILY no matter what. Even in my biggest fits of rage, I have never said I hated someone and actually meant it...normally I mean I love them.

But anyway, back on par. The lyrics specifically say,
"'Cause I swear it's you, I swear it's you
I swear it's you that I've waited for.
And I swear it's you, I swear it's you
I swear it's you that my heart beats for;
And it ain't gonna stop, no it just won't stop."

Lately I have been spending a lot of time with a certain some one and honestly, I feel something differently...no not love, but it is "easy", "fun", and most importantly it makes me happy. No arguments, no drama, no question, it just "is what it is" (This is something you will probably hear me say a lot :-] )

What if we were just made for that one person, what if our other relationships or what have you are our paths on a map that are leading us straight to that one person. Sure people get married divorced ladeeda...but ultimately, we do end up happy right?

Ultimately, our heart continues beating for that one person, that's why we keep living and pressing forward, because we haven't found that one yet.

The way I see life is everything happens for a reason, every heart ache, success, failure, gain, loss, etc. is only leading you closer to your final destination. Of course we make choices that will effect the path we take, but just like when we get lost in a car, we may take different roads but we always get to the final destination.

I guess the next thing to ponder is, why worry where you are going to end up?

Why stress over this or that when stressing does nothing but erode at the insides of our beautiful souls. Live life to the fullest, accept every road block that comes your way; there will always be a detour!

Something to ponder: Why do people always freak out when they aren't in control? Why don't we just sit back and enjoy the beautiful ride of life...

-Miss Optimistic