Hello Internet-
Over the last couple years that I have had this blog, I have collected quotes among quotes that I have found online all for you guys. Now, after reviewing a lot of them...I'm going to share a bunch with you with each new post.
"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections." -Unknown
We all want to be happy- this is a given, but sometimes situations are just what they are. If we constantly are nit-picking and trying to make something it is now...how are we ever supposed to be happy? I have two examples for you. One with my boyfriend and one with a friend.
Last year, my boyfriend and I went through a really rough semester we will say. We a. stopped talking to each other (the most important part of a relationship) and b. I kept trying to change who he was. Looking back on it, I don't even know what I was trying to change him into, but I was trying. Maybe because he was going through a lot and not telling me about it I was trying to make him into something I wanted. I don't know. Regardless. It was a constant battle- stop smoking, you should cut your hair, shave, etc. All commands, when what he was doing was REALLY none of my business...unless it affected me personally...which none of the examples did. Both of us did a lot of wrong in the 5 months of that rough patch, I was a bitch because he was a controlling asshole, and he was a controlling asshole cause I was a bitch. A huge cycle of nonsense. BUT, the most important thing I learned from it was that trying to change someone is only hurting yourself. Be happy with the situation that you have, and if you are trying to change it- then what the hell are you doing in that situation in the first place? We ended up splitting up for 3 months, and then got back together this October, and I COULD NOT be any happier. I think I took this quotes advice. We all have imperfections, and whatever I was 'trying' to change last year, I now look past and love all of him not just parts of him.
Perfection is something that society created and none of us will ever be able to fulfill.
I had a best friend for 15 years. She always chose other situations such as getting drunk, doing drugs, or hanging out with the "popular" crowd over me, and I never quite understood it. I tried so hard to hold onto the friendship and get her to understand that I was more important. In reality, the whole situation was fucked. We both couldn't look past the imperfections of ourselves and life...and ended up losing a really great friendship. Sometimes, especially when we are looking for happiness, we look at all the things we can change in our life...but why do we never look at the things that we have? Why is it so hard to see a situation and appreciate the little things that we DO have, instead of constantly fault-finding in the things that surround us.
My challenge to you: look beyond these imperfections that are around you, and just be content and happy with what you have.
Comment any thoughts/suggestions.
As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
A pointless question...
Hello Internet-
We all have those little things that just erk the fudge out of us. For me, it's one stupid question that is always asked on any evaluation you have to fill out, on any questionnaire, on any papers, on anything! What is that question you ask?
What is your sex: Male or Female.
Excuse my language because this question really pisses me off! But who the f**k cares if I have a dick or a vagina. Lets get real. Weather I don't have some sh*t dangling between my legs or I do...is that really going to help you with your damn research or whatever the hell you are trying to figure out.
For example: why this angers me so much, is because they ask on SCHOOL CLASS EVALUATIONS! HELLO?! You don't even give a flying falcon if I am a male or a female! It's a waste of ink and is a waste of 3 seconds of my damn time. AND let me ask you this- if someone is trans or confused with who they even identify with TELL ME YOU STUPID PEOPLE!!! WHAT THE HELL DO THEY PUT?! Both?! Do they chose what they actually are or do they chose what they identify with? AND IF THIS IS THE CASE!!!! Then your stupid evaluations aren't even factual to your ignorant ass minds, because they don't even know how to answer your stupid ass question that is IRRELEVANT TO ANY other information you are asking for.
Hello please fill this out-
Your sex:
Did you have to take this for your major?:
Do you think this class met the standards discussed in the syllabi?:
Was the professor readily available to meet with you or other students?:
What is your average grade:
How many classes have you missed:
NO!!!!!!! NONE of those questions have nothing to do with my sex, and it irritates me because there are so many people in this world, who when they get to that question anywhere- they have to think about it, or they could feel bad for having to chose something they don't want to.
So let me ask you something- WHY NOT have all of the options readily available? Cause what I did today when I filled out mine, is I checked both genders and wrote this is completely irrelevant! Then they asked it again?! SHUT THE FRONT DOOR!!! Twice in one evaluation?! Now you are just testing me. So again, I write this is irrelevant and do not specify.
The LGBT community gets ignored way too often, and I do not identify with them, but god damn! I will fight for them! It is actually ridiculous that people just cannot accept somethings that are different from what they know.
I was speaking to my roommate about this earlier, because as you can see- I'm quite angry about it. And I honestly think that it's just people do not have peace within themselves. Clearly there will NEVER be peace between people, that would be a miracle. But I'm starting to realize, I don't think a lot of people even have peace within. They constantly struggle and try to be something they aren't or are trying to hide someone they are in fear that they won't be accepted, or whatever the cause is- who is really at peace with themselves? I personally think I am, but I could always be more at peace with myself...everyone really could.
When I get back to the states- the first thing I am doing is finding out how to get that damn question removed, or at least put all the options if your gonna be an ass about it.
Sorry about the rant, but I personally believe in it and I think it's something that we should learn to accept, becuase it is only becoming more common around the world. We are all human and although we may identify ourselves with different things it doesn't mean we aren't something at all, like this question is basically saying. Male or Female! NO! There are other options....how has the world not gotten this yet?!
Anyway, enough rambling cause I could do this all day.... haha!
Comment your thoughts if you'd like.
As always MUCH love,
-Miss Optimistic
*****DISCLAIMER: THE PICTURE IS NOT MINE. I FOUND THE PICTURE USING STUMBLEUPON.COM****
We all have those little things that just erk the fudge out of us. For me, it's one stupid question that is always asked on any evaluation you have to fill out, on any questionnaire, on any papers, on anything! What is that question you ask?
What is your sex: Male or Female.
Excuse my language because this question really pisses me off! But who the f**k cares if I have a dick or a vagina. Lets get real. Weather I don't have some sh*t dangling between my legs or I do...is that really going to help you with your damn research or whatever the hell you are trying to figure out.
For example: why this angers me so much, is because they ask on SCHOOL CLASS EVALUATIONS! HELLO?! You don't even give a flying falcon if I am a male or a female! It's a waste of ink and is a waste of 3 seconds of my damn time. AND let me ask you this- if someone is trans or confused with who they even identify with TELL ME YOU STUPID PEOPLE!!! WHAT THE HELL DO THEY PUT?! Both?! Do they chose what they actually are or do they chose what they identify with? AND IF THIS IS THE CASE!!!! Then your stupid evaluations aren't even factual to your ignorant ass minds, because they don't even know how to answer your stupid ass question that is IRRELEVANT TO ANY other information you are asking for.
Hello please fill this out-
Your sex:
Did you have to take this for your major?:
Do you think this class met the standards discussed in the syllabi?:
Was the professor readily available to meet with you or other students?:
What is your average grade:
How many classes have you missed:
NO!!!!!!! NONE of those questions have nothing to do with my sex, and it irritates me because there are so many people in this world, who when they get to that question anywhere- they have to think about it, or they could feel bad for having to chose something they don't want to.
So let me ask you something- WHY NOT have all of the options readily available? Cause what I did today when I filled out mine, is I checked both genders and wrote this is completely irrelevant! Then they asked it again?! SHUT THE FRONT DOOR!!! Twice in one evaluation?! Now you are just testing me. So again, I write this is irrelevant and do not specify.
The LGBT community gets ignored way too often, and I do not identify with them, but god damn! I will fight for them! It is actually ridiculous that people just cannot accept somethings that are different from what they know.
I was speaking to my roommate about this earlier, because as you can see- I'm quite angry about it. And I honestly think that it's just people do not have peace within themselves. Clearly there will NEVER be peace between people, that would be a miracle. But I'm starting to realize, I don't think a lot of people even have peace within. They constantly struggle and try to be something they aren't or are trying to hide someone they are in fear that they won't be accepted, or whatever the cause is- who is really at peace with themselves? I personally think I am, but I could always be more at peace with myself...everyone really could.
When I get back to the states- the first thing I am doing is finding out how to get that damn question removed, or at least put all the options if your gonna be an ass about it.
Sorry about the rant, but I personally believe in it and I think it's something that we should learn to accept, becuase it is only becoming more common around the world. We are all human and although we may identify ourselves with different things it doesn't mean we aren't something at all, like this question is basically saying. Male or Female! NO! There are other options....how has the world not gotten this yet?!
Anyway, enough rambling cause I could do this all day.... haha!
Comment your thoughts if you'd like.
As always MUCH love,
-Miss Optimistic
*****DISCLAIMER: THE PICTURE IS NOT MINE. I FOUND THE PICTURE USING STUMBLEUPON.COM****
Monday, November 28, 2011
Change or find?
Hello Internet-
I came across another quote today that made me think:
"Many people say I've changed, but the truth is I've just found myself."-Anonymous.
Recently, I was talking to one of my old good friends. He basically walked out of my life like my father has, and when he finally came back expected me to be all happy I guess. He seemed to remember the past 6 months or so very differently than I do. He told me something had happened and he needed time to figure things out. And all I wanted to do was be a friend to him and be there for him, so I'd text him almost every day, call him at least once every other week, and send him facebook messages- and in return would receive absolutely nothing. He claims all of these attempts to get in touch with him never even happened. HA! Then he continued to tell me why he didn't understand why I was upset. Maybe cause my best friend disappeared and ignored me like my father has done to me for the last 15 years. Actually! come to think of it- he makes my dad look AWESOME...cause at least my dad answers my emails a couple days later. Anyway- conversation went on about us trying to tell the other how the last 6 months went, and I realized...he was totally different, and not in a way that I liked. But I also realized, I had no say in who he was because we hadn't talked in half a year. Who knows if he had some life changing experience...a lot happens in 6 months.
Then I found this quote. Did he really even change? Maybe he just found the douche bag inside himself that he really is. So what happens to us? Do you think that we actually change- or maybe we just grow into who we were meant to be. I can't decide. Maybe it's both? I don't know. Comment your thoughts....I'm interested to see how others see take this quote/their ideas on it.
As always- much love, -Miss Optimistic
I came across another quote today that made me think:
"Many people say I've changed, but the truth is I've just found myself."-Anonymous.
Recently, I was talking to one of my old good friends. He basically walked out of my life like my father has, and when he finally came back expected me to be all happy I guess. He seemed to remember the past 6 months or so very differently than I do. He told me something had happened and he needed time to figure things out. And all I wanted to do was be a friend to him and be there for him, so I'd text him almost every day, call him at least once every other week, and send him facebook messages- and in return would receive absolutely nothing. He claims all of these attempts to get in touch with him never even happened. HA! Then he continued to tell me why he didn't understand why I was upset. Maybe cause my best friend disappeared and ignored me like my father has done to me for the last 15 years. Actually! come to think of it- he makes my dad look AWESOME...cause at least my dad answers my emails a couple days later. Anyway- conversation went on about us trying to tell the other how the last 6 months went, and I realized...he was totally different, and not in a way that I liked. But I also realized, I had no say in who he was because we hadn't talked in half a year. Who knows if he had some life changing experience...a lot happens in 6 months.
Then I found this quote. Did he really even change? Maybe he just found the douche bag inside himself that he really is. So what happens to us? Do you think that we actually change- or maybe we just grow into who we were meant to be. I can't decide. Maybe it's both? I don't know. Comment your thoughts....I'm interested to see how others see take this quote/their ideas on it.
As always- much love, -Miss Optimistic
Sunday, November 27, 2011
"Dark Passenger"
Hello Internet-
Lately, I have joined in with this obsession with the show Dexter. The first time I tried watching it was totally turned off, but this last time...I couldn't stop. Completely caught up to season 5 in about two or three weeks- sad I know. But I have learned a lot from the show. Interesting how a forensics/murder show can teach you something.
For those of you who don't watch it- Dexter is the main character and he is a serial killer who kills people who have hurt others. He is also a forensic scientist, so he gets the inside to all this information etc. But he talks about his killer being his "dark passenger". And thinking about it- we all do have a dark passenger...it just depends on how we use it or if we use it at all.
I stumbled upon a quote- literally I used stumbleupon.com (great procrastinating website haha!)but the quote says: "Monsters exist. They live inside ordinary people. And sometimes, they win." -Anonymous
We all have this darkness inside of us, some are worse than others, but regardless. Instead of trying to hide it, we should at least know it's there, see the other side to us and embrace it. Sometimes it'll do better than you think it will.
Honestly- I know I have a monster, or "Dark passenger", that lives inside me, but I couldn't tell you what her role in my life is. I haven't met her one on one yet. The other great thing about seeing these evils that are among us, is you know who you really love. If you can handle someones darkness, you are doing more for that person than you know, and vice versa.
Maybe it is time that we start seeing these dark passengers and not hiding them.
-Miss Optimistic
Lately, I have joined in with this obsession with the show Dexter. The first time I tried watching it was totally turned off, but this last time...I couldn't stop. Completely caught up to season 5 in about two or three weeks- sad I know. But I have learned a lot from the show. Interesting how a forensics/murder show can teach you something.
For those of you who don't watch it- Dexter is the main character and he is a serial killer who kills people who have hurt others. He is also a forensic scientist, so he gets the inside to all this information etc. But he talks about his killer being his "dark passenger". And thinking about it- we all do have a dark passenger...it just depends on how we use it or if we use it at all.
I stumbled upon a quote- literally I used stumbleupon.com (great procrastinating website haha!)but the quote says: "Monsters exist. They live inside ordinary people. And sometimes, they win." -Anonymous
We all have this darkness inside of us, some are worse than others, but regardless. Instead of trying to hide it, we should at least know it's there, see the other side to us and embrace it. Sometimes it'll do better than you think it will.
Honestly- I know I have a monster, or "Dark passenger", that lives inside me, but I couldn't tell you what her role in my life is. I haven't met her one on one yet. The other great thing about seeing these evils that are among us, is you know who you really love. If you can handle someones darkness, you are doing more for that person than you know, and vice versa.
Maybe it is time that we start seeing these dark passengers and not hiding them.
-Miss Optimistic
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Need some advice on focusing?
Hello Internet-
Stumbled upon this website literally...and figured you might want to check it out.
Just click on the link- it's gonna help me!
-Miss Optimistic
Stumbled upon this website literally...and figured you might want to check it out.
Just click on the link- it's gonna help me!
-Miss Optimistic
Know what you want.
Hello Internet-
Long time no see, yea yea yea. I know. Cannot believe a whole semester has passed since I last posted anything here. Not okay. But, being over in another country has opened my eyes, and I have learned quite a lot.
The first thing I have learned here is that I know what I want in my life and what is worth having in my life. All that other stuff is just stuff to pass the time, and I don't really need that. If you know what you want to surround yourself with, life will surround you with what you want.
It's funny because while being here, six hours ahead of all of my friends, it has really hit me who cares and who doesn't. There are people who I really didn't think I was that close with, yet they get in touch with me at least once a week. And now, I'm excited to go home to see these friends that are way closer than I think.
The only negative thing with knowing what you want to surround you, is you get a little bit more picky. I have become more easily fed up with peoples' bull shit and immatureness. I don't need to put myself around stress and anxiety when I don't want it in my life.
Separating yourself from your life isn't a bad thing. Sure you miss what is comfortable, but it also makes you appreciate the great things you have, and also shows you what you really don't care about or don't need.
Second thing I have learned/thought of here...
This quote I thought of while on a trip was:
"I don't have wishes I have goals, and I don't have regrets I have experiences." - Optimistic Voice
Use this quote if you like, just please quote me...you didn't think of it I did. :)
It's kinda something I've been preaching in a more realistic way I guess. Wishes are great and all, but wishing for something doesn't make it come to you. Having a goal to get it is what makes it come to you. STOP WISHING START DOING!! Also, don't wallow in what has happened- that's just regretting. Take those negative or positive things that have happened and see them as experiences. It's a more positive way to look at life, and makes you happier at the same time.
-Miss Optimistic
Long time no see, yea yea yea. I know. Cannot believe a whole semester has passed since I last posted anything here. Not okay. But, being over in another country has opened my eyes, and I have learned quite a lot.
The first thing I have learned here is that I know what I want in my life and what is worth having in my life. All that other stuff is just stuff to pass the time, and I don't really need that. If you know what you want to surround yourself with, life will surround you with what you want.
It's funny because while being here, six hours ahead of all of my friends, it has really hit me who cares and who doesn't. There are people who I really didn't think I was that close with, yet they get in touch with me at least once a week. And now, I'm excited to go home to see these friends that are way closer than I think.
The only negative thing with knowing what you want to surround you, is you get a little bit more picky. I have become more easily fed up with peoples' bull shit and immatureness. I don't need to put myself around stress and anxiety when I don't want it in my life.
Separating yourself from your life isn't a bad thing. Sure you miss what is comfortable, but it also makes you appreciate the great things you have, and also shows you what you really don't care about or don't need.
Second thing I have learned/thought of here...
This quote I thought of while on a trip was:
"I don't have wishes I have goals, and I don't have regrets I have experiences." - Optimistic Voice
Use this quote if you like, just please quote me...you didn't think of it I did. :)
It's kinda something I've been preaching in a more realistic way I guess. Wishes are great and all, but wishing for something doesn't make it come to you. Having a goal to get it is what makes it come to you. STOP WISHING START DOING!! Also, don't wallow in what has happened- that's just regretting. Take those negative or positive things that have happened and see them as experiences. It's a more positive way to look at life, and makes you happier at the same time.
-Miss Optimistic
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