Let's play the "Blame Game"

Hello Internet-< /br> < /br>One thing I have learned from friendships and relationships in general, is we always like to play the blame game. Why? Does it give us satisfaction to tell the other how they fucked up when we are the ones getting in trouble? I try to not bring up past examples into an argument, but if I feel they are relevant I always do. What is the point? Why is it we cannot let go of things that affect us in some way? Is it because they affected us then, or now, and we just let it go because the other one wanted us to, and not because WE were ready to let it go.< /br> < /br>So I have this problem. A friend of mine did something and it's just eating away at me, and I have no idea why. They keep saying- let it go it's stupid, and my heart keeps twisting and killing me more. I have had many posts about how letting go is one of the most important steps to being happy, so why can't I let this go? Why is it this one thing that is slowly eroding my insides, like a river erodes at the earth below it. And, why is it so important to the other person for it to just be let go? Clearly, I am keeping this vague for a reason.< /br> < /br>My point is: we all let go at some time, but what is the better time Internet? To let go when someone tells you to, or to let go when you are ready to? And is there even a difference?< /br> < /br>But, one of the most important rules in any relationship, friendship, or acquaintance....never play the blame game. What is the point in bringing up what the other has done? If they mean something to you too- does it make you feel better to watch them suffer or be sad? Cause when one of my friends or someone I love is sad or suffering, I become sad and hurt for them. More important- when did the blame game become so natural? Ugh...society.< /br> I don't know- comment/thoughts below.< /br> -Miss Optimistic

Two types of people

Hello Internet-< br/> < br/>There are two types of people in this world, those that do things and expect things in return, and those that do things and expect nothing. Love comes from wanting to do something just from the thought of doing it, not because of what you will get out of it. We are constantly looking for something else, but why can we not give just to give?< br/> < br/>From experience, if you give something with the idea of getting something in return, most likely you get nothing, or you get shit. Both you are pretty disappointed with. So here is my challenge to you: Give to give. Seeing someone else happy should be enough of a reward for you. Plus with the holiday season near, everyone could use a little pick me up :).< br/> < br/>Much love,< br/> -Miss Optimistic

Change is always around the corner.

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As my journey winds to an end, there have been some things that have been a common topic of conversation. The main one: Change. Now, I have written about change before in this blog, whether you follow me or not you already know, but I found a quote that may help explain why and what I mean by accept change.

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” - Charles Darwin

Now, I doubt Darwin was straight up talking about humans here...but he's got a point. I mean if you think about it- Darwinism is the reason, or could be the reason, why we are all here...because our ancestors at one point were able to survive through the changes that were occurring. Why are we so afraid of change? I have yet to understand, becuase the greatest moments in my life have been when I have embraced change.

Change: U.S. to Ecuador for 5 weeks. Not only was I embracing change, but the experienced CHANGED ME. Once something changes you, wouldn't you want something different anyway? People like their schedules and they like knowing what's coming next- but honestly where is that fun. There is no adventure and there isn't that antsy feeling. One thing we really do need to accept is change is coming. Our world is changing. From natural disasters coming from every direction, to massive amounts of animals dying, and finally to freak weather that we can't explain. Ex. it's December in one of the most snowiest cities in America- and it's been in the 60s. Something is wrong with that.

Our species is meant to adapt, all species are really meant to adapt. We've adapted our whole lives, so why is it that when we are older, we try to stop it? Realize what changes have occurred in you, and try to initiate change elsewhere...that's the best way I've come to embrace change...by giving it to someone else.

-Miss Optimistic

Just try.

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Lately, I have been studying Hemingway. Reading his books, articles about him, and also quotes he has written. Although this CRAZY author was all over the place, there are things that he has said that are beautifully written. For example this quote:

"Before you talk, listen.
Before you react, think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
Before you quit, try.
-Ernest Heminway

What I love about this quote is it challenges everything that our gut always tells us to do. Our instincts are so sharp that when something happens, (this doesn't go for everyone) we immediately react...but why? How can we learn to live or work with other people if we don't even know how to act in a mature manner. That may have come off a little harsh. But think about it, how many times has your emotions taken over and you do something that you probably shouldn't have? For me, that number is too high to count.

I'm a scorpio- so my emotions immediately take over me. This habit or instinct is something I have been working on for years, and let me tell you- it's really hard to break. Jealousy, anger, or sadness all seem to take over my brain and the rest is history. I'd like to say I've gotten better, but the only ones that know that are my closest friends and my family.

The most important thing any of us can do is try, the last sentence of Hemingway's quote. What's the worst that can happen from trying- failing? Well here's another quote I've heard many many times but don't know who it's by : "Fall down 7, get back up 8." There is always another opportunity to try- so what is stopping you?

I challenge you all to try these six steps and see how your life changes.

Comment if you'd like.
As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic

Video

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Another inspiring video.

Even though our country has been through a lot we keep fighting on, like each and everyone of us should.
-Miss Optimistic

What is reality?

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My reasons for creating this blog are still the same: to pass on my thoughts, and to hope that some of what I have to say will help or touch someone. One of my biggest beliefs is that we should believe in what we feel is right and what we personally connect to.

As always, here comes a quote:

"Do not believe in any thing
Simply because you have heard it.
Do not believe in any thing
Simply because it's spoken and rumored by many.
Do not believe in any thing
Simply because it's found written in your religious books.
Do no believe in any thing
Merely on the authority of your teachers and elders.
Do not believe in traditions because,
They have been handed down for many generations.
But after observation and analysis.
When you find that any thing agrees with reason,
And is conductive to the good and benefit of one and all,
Then accept it and live up to it."
-Lord, Gautham Buddha

I'm going to be honest- I have a hard time liking Lady Gaga- sorry followers. She has no sense of reality or a set of beliefs that she follows. She follows all beliefs in order to create a larger audience or connect with more people to make MORE money. As it is, she makes at least FOUR million a year off of bull shit. The reason I bring this up now is because, she hates reality (or this is my take on it) because people just follow what they are told or what they see. But the reality of it is- is she is supposed to be who people are looking up to.

So now we have an issue of people just giving up on reality, and believing it's all a facade. Want to see an example: here it is.

Here is my issue: someone told me that reality isn't real, it's all an illusion, and my response was: we are living, therefore there is some reality to everything we do. And now, we have people responding to that with this : "But reality is what you make of it. This is all so temporary. And all living we do is based on this idea of ourselves that we have... But that idea is fake. It is organized by our ego and what we think we need to be based on media and what is imposed upon us. Anyway... There is nothing wrong with making your reality what you want of it. Because that is what it is. What you make of it."

So let me ask you Internet: does reality exist? If so...what is reality?

My opinion, yes a reality is that we all take life too seriously, but why does that mean that there is no reality. It's not like we are living in Inception. (GREAT movie by the way) AND her reality is so messed up anyway, cause she has more money than she knows what to do with, so she can do whatever she wants. US on the other hand, "normal" working people, have a different reality. We are still alive, and things are still real though. I don't know- any thoughts?

Comment below.
As always, much love
-Miss Optimistic

A survivor.

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So today I was stumbling around again, when I found the most inspiring video I have ever come across. Coming from someone who has been bullied and picked on for the longest time, my connection with this video brought my to tears.

This is Jonah, and here is his story.

I suggest you watch it, and pass it along...because this video has not only inspired others, but helped many suffering teens get through their depression, and realize...there is something worth living for. If a 14 year old boy can be this strong...imagine what you can do.

As always, much love!
-Miss Optimistic